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Very interesting answers from all of you, thankyou for your honesty

You could give it to me if you want

Hi there...

Ok, I can see where you are coming from, although, I would not want some lazy ass, who thought he was to be taken care of by me, just as I do not want to be taken care of financially by a man, I think it is what the two people bring to the relationship and how they feel about each other.

Many PEOPLE are money oriented, not just women, I guess it is how one feels about themselves, once that is worked out then the material things in life are much easier to come by.

I do find these sort of threads hard to answer, because for me, there can be no answer...

I do not want a lazy ass, but if he is a worker and applies himself around that, then that would be enough for me, how much he earned would not be a contributing factor as to why I was with him.

Of course now, to answer the question, I'd prefer a guy to be making either the same as I make or more than I make. In no way do I want him to feel inferior if he makes less than I do.

And I've actually been in that situation....sort of. Divorced the guy who made a decent living and ended up with a boyfriend who couldn't even help me with the rent, but he was relatively good at being affectionate. I ended up feeling like I was being taken advantage of & didn't really like the feeling.

I would choose the poor man because being happy with less is still being richer in the long wrong than being showered with material goods and not love. Life is too short and we will be remembered by those we love really not by the material possessions we had unless we give them away.

I can't even find one that is willing to pay part of her own way..

generally speaking, the lesser means. but to be perfectly honest... depends how much lesser we're talking about. i need someone who can carry his own weight. i'm not at a place in my life where supporting someone else is even reasonable really, let alone something i'd want to do. but then again, i make enough to get by, and i'm happy with enough to get by. no need to feel rich right now.

Really? I would there would be plenty of independent women out there these days who pay their own way.

Been there, done that--I would pick the man who was good to me and the at (more or lesss) is stated in my profile.

I do, do.

If you are really sweet HJ might even buy you a Happy Meal my treat. How's that for generosity?

I don't think that most women really care about his income. What matters to us, I believe, is who he is. If he loves his woman and treats her with respect and caring that's all that matters. And everyones idea of romantic differs. What I find romantic isn't what the next woman would.

Who he is and how he treats us and others, that's whats most important.

Bravo woman well said.

I never said the man didn't have a job , he just wasn't rich, he could be a man that just has an average job with average pay.

AMEN SISTER

Exactly.

sOMMER thats what makes this so interesting its the perspective all different from one another because not one of you has a complete story, really the answer I am after is, is money important to a woman in a relationship or does a woman find having a good loving man more important. I guess if you wanted answers of if he was employed then lets say the man makes 25,000 a year and has dental and health insurance

duh. Most of us have had bad relationships.

I don't care what a man's income is as long as I don't have to fully support him--Been there, Done that....History..

But, there can be money and a great relationship combined...

So I cannot answer, because there is no answer for me.

Money, I need, so I go and make my own, because I have children to support, that is my responsibility.

I am in a relationship and we are both solvent, would I be with him, if he was hugely in debt and had not two pennies to rub together? No, I would not have been attracted to him, because I need and want a person who is financially responsible, has some ethics and morals around paying his bills on time.

I would not be attracted to a person who had masses of debt, I would become frustrated, irritated. I know I would.

That is not to say that I am driven by somebody else's money, I am driven by the fact that I have a home, two, in fact, that I need to keep those up and that I have children to support, that is what drives me. Somebody, who had no financial morals would be a drain on me emotionally.

However, a person that does earn an income and is responsible with it, however much that income is, would attract me, along with the usual things...

Choosing between the two is hard, because you are asking me, a question that I cannot answer directly, only indirectly.