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RillyNiceGuy Southeast, Arkansas USA
Granpa said,"Marry a rich gal. Then ya got the money to hire a hooker to be nice to ya!"rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
maybesoon brisbane, Queensland Australia
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romanticman4u brainerd, Minnesota USA
Sommerauer71: But, there can be money and a great relationship combined...

So I cannot answer, because there is no answer for me.

Money, I need, so I go and make my own, because I have children to support, that is my responsibility.

I am in a relationship and we are both solvent, would I be with him, if he was hugely in debt and had not two pennies to rub together? No, I would not have been attracted to him, because I need and want a person who is financially responsible, has some ethics and morals around paying his bills on time.

I would not be attracted to a person who had masses of debt, I would become frustrated, irritated. I know I would.

That is not to say that I am driven by somebody else's money, I am driven by the fact that I have a home, two, in fact, that I need to keep those up and that I have children to support, that is what drives me. Somebody, who had no financial morals would be a drain on me emotionally.

However, a person that does earn an income and is responsible with it, however much that income is, would attract me, along with the usual things...

Choosing between the two is hard, because you are asking me, a question that I cannot answer directly, only indirectly.
Apparently when I said he made 25,000 and had all insurances did kind of a fly by for you, lets say for aurguement this man did make what I said , this does not make him fiscally irresponcable, he has a job hes paying his bills , the only thing about him is he wasn't born with a sliver spoon in his mouth, a couple can be happy without being rich as this post has proven.
Middy Yorkshire, North Yorkshire, England UK
romanticman4u: Please be honest when answering....if you had a choice between a man who had money but wasn't good at relationships vs A man of lesser means who was really good to his woman which would man would you chose and why?


I'd choose the one with lesser means, hands down, thumbs up wave



AmberR0SE Ventnor, New Jersey USA
I would choose the man with money. Then I would divorce him, take 1/2 his money and marry the other guy. grin
pubwrite08 District Heights, Maryland USA
romanticman4u: Please be honest when answering....if you had a choice between a man who had money but wasn't good at relationships vs A man of lesser means who was really good to his woman which would man would you chose and why?
The guy that is good to his woman, because the two of us can put our heads together, and maybe increase the income. In my opinion that seems like the right thing to do.
hopefloats Slim's Lady, Tennessee USA
Sommerauer71: Why is it assumed that men with money are crap at relationships?



Yeah, the ones with lesser means can be just as crappy at relationships!professor laugh
Sommerauer71 Hallein, Salzburg Austria
romanticman4u: Apparently when I said he made 25,000 and had all insurances did kind of a fly by for you, lets say for aurguement this man did make what I said , this does not make him fiscally irresponcable, he has a job hes paying his bills , the only thing about him is he wasn't born with a sliver spoon in his mouth, a couple can be happy without being rich as this post has proven.


I know as well as the next person that a relationship can work without money and I was stating my corner, my view.

And your penultimate comment is simliar to what I stated.

As for being born with a silver spoon in one's mouth, I would not know, not having been born with one, nor been with anybody that has, my point, being that I cannot chose between love and money in the way that you ask.

If a person has nothing, then they can still be responsible.

I think you are missing my point, while I am getting yours.

Being hard up is not shameful, or bad, we all have had hard times, I am sure, but neither does a person having money make them bad at relationships.

And when you say born with a silver spoon, you are talking aristocracy, there are plenty of solvent people out there, who do not earn much, being solvent is being financially responsible, not rich.

I earn a reasonable amount, enough to live off and support my children, I would support a man that I loved, who fell on hard times. Of course I would. That is what being a partner is all about.

But I would not get involved with some lazy git, who expected me to pay for his expenses, when he is capable of working, nor would I be attracted to a person who was irresponsible with money.

I think this is the third time I have said this now.

Sommerauer71 Hallein, Salzburg Austria
hopefloats: Yeah, the ones with lesser means can be just as crappy at relationships!


Ah Hope, I am pleased you are understanding me, I was beginning to think I was speaking Japanese.

HJFinAZ Sun CIty, Arizona USA
Dawn7z: If you are really sweet HJ might even buy you a Happy Meal my treat. How's that for generosity?

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Exactly WHEN have you ever known me to be "sweet"???devil

There I go again, no Happy Meal..sigh
HJFinAZ Sun CIty, Arizona USA
RillyNiceGuy: Granpa said,"Marry a rich gal. Then ya got the money to hire a hooker to be nice to ya!"


EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!devil

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HJFinAZ Sun CIty, Arizona USA
dcj22: duh. Most of us have had bad relationships.


And women think THEY have a monopoly on bad relationships??confused

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dragonfly88 valencia, Valenciana Spain
romanticman4u: What if the rich man was good to his woman but just wasn't good at being romantic or spending the same quality time the porer fella was giving his lady?


Most of the time, the idea of being romantic from a man's point of view is totally different from a woman's so....

it's just a matter for the couple to adjust and compenetrate each other.

as for choosing..... I'd choose the guy who made me happy
woody636 Elgin, Illinois USA
AmberR0SE: I would choose the man with money. Then I would divorce him, take 1/2 his money and marry the other guy.


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Sommerauer71 Hallein, Salzburg Austria
I know Woody, great post from Amber, I think she is going to be a blast here...

walley golden, British Columbia Canada
rolling on the floor laughing romantick lol dose it mater or men have difrent idease of romantic .


well ill give you romantic . to start with i gave roses evry month never misst on birth day / anaversery alwase roses and a nice supper out and the nite was open to waht ever she wanted to doo drink party go home waht ever that was for my girl frends.


my wife got flowers evry month with a very nice card out for dinner . valintines day id ride up on my harly walk in to her work with choklits card and 12 long stemd rosess drop to one knee and sing rex smiths you take my breth a way or the comedors one of linel richys songs at the top of my lungs im a musishon and have wone a few contests for singing i sing well .


now waht i got from one of the girl frends was get me plants insted of flowers . i think she got spoyilt but i did get her some plants .


my ex wife well lets just say she dident deserve waht i did for her she never apreaseated it at all the valintines thing i did that 3 times .

i rased her kids for 10 yers and she left i still have the yungist with me he is now 11 and a grate sun

moon lite rides on the bike with a blankit and bottel of wine some qwiet time to gether

yes i beleave i was romantic or i triyd very hard to be that doh grin



queensguy2468 Rego Park, New York USA
a man with money is like a fine hooker, that laughs at you when you take your pants off, but you keep coming back for more and she keeps giving you the stare.


Don't forget, the word of the day is cheeks, spread the word around.
maybesoon brisbane, Queensland Australia
AmberR0SE: I would choose the man with money. Then I would divorce him, take 1/2 his money and marry the other guy.


the problem with that, you have to stay with him for 2 years, and screw him, then your get your payment...

i suppose he pay you in installemts...

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lusciousmile Espoo, Etela-Suomen Laani Finland
rasgumby: Oh hell.........Come on over Doll and we can make love all night on my new Couch!!I just got it today from salvation Army,
and a chair that don't match from the curb, I just can't believe that anyone would throw out a perfectly good chair just because their dog chewed off one leg.. isnt that what a dictionary is for!!



Is your rent for the next month, already paid?

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lusciousmile Espoo, Etela-Suomen Laani Finland
romanticman4u: Apparently when I said he made 25,000 and had all insurances did kind of a fly by for you, lets say for aurguement this man did make what I said , this does not make him fiscally irresponcable, he has a job hes paying his bills , the only thing about him is he wasn't born with a sliver spoon in his mouth, a couple can be happy without being rich as this post has proven.


I wasn't born with a silver spoon in my mouth, but what does that have to do, with being able to make money/ make enough money/ make something out of one's life?


dunno




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