Steveno: Hello Sommerauer,
I do believe that soldiers who sign up know the risks, that risk is a part of their job. I wouldn't want to say it to the soldier's grieving parents however, because I wouldn't want to add more pain to their situation... it's not a matter of being brave.
Of course I'm sympathetic when people (inc. soldiers) die, I'm also sympathetic when a civilian family dies because a soldier wrongly bombed their house.
Yes, they do know the risks, especially when it is a profession that they chose to enter. If a person died in a butchers shop, knowing the risks, then I would not say it to the grieving relatives.
In the UK, it is a profession, the risks are there whatever profession we undertake.