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Steveno Mumbai India
Thu Jan 8, 2009 5:04 AM CST : Choosing between...
Would you date someone with a disability?
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druidess6308 Aliquippa, Pennsylvania USA
Thu Jan 8, 2009 6:21 AM CST : Choosing between...
Steveno, that is not an easy question. I think it depends on the disability and the person with it. This isn't a black and white question, but one with shades of grey. There are people who handle being disabled much better than others, and disabilities that would be easier to handle than others. So...good question. wine
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Sommerauer71 Hallein, Salzburg Austria
Thu Jan 8, 2009 6:26 AM CST : Choosing between...
druidess6308: Steveno, that is not an easy question. I think it depends on the disability and the person with it. This isn't a black and white question, but one with shades of grey. There are people who handle being disabled much better than others, and disabilities that would be easier to handle than others. So...good question.



Right up there with you Dru.

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cristina Lisbon, Groningen Netherlands
Thu Jan 8, 2009 6:27 AM CST : Choosing between...
Sommerauer71: Right up there with you Dru.


She's so perfect isn't she?heart beating
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Steveno Mumbai India
Thu Jan 8, 2009 6:59 AM CST : Choosing between...
druidess6308: Steveno, that is not an easy question. I think it depends on the disability and the person with it. This isn't a black and white question, but one with shades of grey. There are people who handle being disabled much better than others, and disabilities that would be easier to handle than others. So...good question.


I already have. I dated someone who was deaf. She was gorgeous. It was fun learning to sign and she could read anyone's lips so I really didn't have to learn a lot. It was funny b/c she could tell you what people were talking about across the room, mall, etc.

But yea, they are no different. You could be disabled one day, wouldn't you want someone to love you?
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Sommerauer71 Hallein, Salzburg Austria
Thu Jan 8, 2009 7:02 AM CST : Choosing between...
Steveno:

But yea, they are no different. You could be disabled one day, wouldn't you want someone to love you?


Very good question again.

Again it would depend on the level of the disability and how I was feeling about it.




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Steveno Mumbai India
Thu Jan 8, 2009 7:09 AM CST : Choosing between...
Sommerauer71: Very good question again.

Again it would depend on the level of the disability and how I was feeling about it.


I find it sad that others don't consider that disabled people may have sexual feelings also. This is a subject that makes a lot of people queezy. That's why I asked the question + I appreciate the honesty.

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wixomwizard Wixom, Michigan USA
Thu Jan 8, 2009 7:11 AM CST : Choosing between...
druidess6308: Steveno, that is not an easy question. I think it depends on the disability and the person with it. This isn't a black and white question, but one with shades of grey. There are people who handle being disabled much better than others, and disabilities that would be easier to handle than others. So...good question.


I could'nt agree more. I have a gal pal who has epilepsy. We were at a movie when she had a seisure, and it scared the crap out of me. I had no idea what so ever to do for her. Fortunately, she came out of it as quickly as she went into it.
I was stunned, I had never witnessed anything like that up close and personal.
She is one of my closest personal friends and we get together on a regular basis, but there is no romance there.professor
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AmberR0SE Ventnor, New Jersey USA
Thu Jan 8, 2009 7:17 AM CST : Choosing between...
Steveno: Would you date someone with a disability?

Is being broke considered a disability?


Seriously I cant say until I meet a man and until I know what his disability is. Some disabilities dont bother me and some do. I dont think I could date some man with a mental disability. Physical disabilities dont seem to bother me but mental ones do and I dont think I could handle them.
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HJFinAZ Sun CIty, Arizona USA
Thu Jan 8, 2009 7:19 AM CST : Choosing between...
It appears every woman I meet is a real "Nutcase" and I am wondering if they should be considered disabled??confused
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Sommerauer71 Hallein, Salzburg Austria
Thu Jan 8, 2009 7:22 AM CST : Choosing between...
Steveno: I find it sad that others don't consider that disabled people may have sexual feelings also. This is a subject that makes a lot of people queezy. That's why I asked the question + I appreciate the honesty.


Oh I would never dare to consider that a disabled person would not have those feelings.

How could I?

I think as Dru has said, it would have to depend on the disability.

But then as you say, we could all become disabled one day and rightly so you have pointed out that we would want to be loved.

I am taking it here, Steve, that you mean a physical disability?

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Dusty45 Louisville, Kentucky USA
Thu Jan 8, 2009 7:23 AM CST : Choosing between...
It depends.

How evolved are we, really, spiritually?

We all see ourselves as spiritual beings, and we are.

But, the trueness of our Self comes out in questions
such as this.

A date.

Can we see and relate to their spirit?
Are we stuck in the ego's choice?

Do we make a choice for Spiritual Love
or choose
fear and ego?

A choice between two consciousness es.

Choose again.
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pubwrite08 District Heights, Maryland USA
Thu Jan 8, 2009 7:26 AM CST : Choosing between...
Steveno: I already have. I dated someone who was deaf. She was gorgeous. It was fun learning to sign and she could read anyone's lips so I really didn't have to learn a lot. It was funny b/c she could tell you what people were talking about across the room, mall, etc.

But yea, they are no different. You could be disabled one day, wouldn't you want someone to love you?
I dated a deaf guy, and he was a lotta fun, he seemed happy, he could read lips, and sign, and he talked a little loud, but I thought it was all part of his charm.
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HJFinAZ Sun CIty, Arizona USA
Thu Jan 8, 2009 7:30 AM CST : Choosing between...
pubwrite08: I dated a deaf guy, and he was a lotta fun, he seemed happy, he could read lips, and sign, and he talked a little loud, but I thought it was all part of his charm.


idea A deaf mute....grin

But then I would have to hide all the pens & pencils so she could not leave "notes"..sigh
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roadrunner55 San Diego, California USA
Thu Jan 8, 2009 7:34 AM CST : Choosing between...
Here is a question that has no gray area. Diabled people need love also and they do have feelings. They can't be as eloquent as a person who is not(as far as expression). I guess this is a question of whether or not one has an open mind. I was in the Phillipines and dated a lady who was in a wheelchair. She definately had needs and was a wonderful person. I just left because my time was up and I had to rotate backt to the U.S.
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Steveno Mumbai India
Thu Jan 8, 2009 7:34 AM CST : Choosing between...
I am taking it here, Steve, that you mean a physical disability?

I love the edit on the answer by the way..it is physical disability only...
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woody636 Elgin, Illinois USA
Thu Jan 8, 2009 7:37 AM CST : Choosing between...
Steveno: Would you date someone with a disability?


Morning all! wave Good questions Steveno. My wife developed epilepsy during the years we were married but it was completely controlled by medication. Dated a gal that was deaf while in college but, quite honestly, she was so good at lip reading it was hard to even catch that fact. Type of handicap would play a huge factor. Of course, you're assuming you actually have control of who you fall in love with; big assumption!
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princessadele murray bridge, South Australia Australia
Thu Jan 8, 2009 7:51 AM CST : Choosing between...
what about people with a learning disability a friend of mine has one most people dont even pick up on it when she meets someone its a minor problem she has in fact when she tells people they usally think she is full of it but she not thats how minor her learning problem. for the blokes would any of u consider going on a date with her.she is single and i think any bloke would be luck to have her. she is one of the most caring honest thoughtful person i have ever met.
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HJFinAZ Sun CIty, Arizona USA
Thu Jan 8, 2009 8:03 AM CST : Choosing between...
princessadele: what about people with a learning disability


Women do not have "learning disabilities", they just won't listen..frustrated frustrated

grin
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RillyNiceGuy Southeast, Arkansas USA
Thu Jan 8, 2009 8:12 AM CST : Choosing between...
HJFinAZ: Women do not have "learning disabilities", they just won't listen..



Yup! They never seem to learn to put the sack on their head first.rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
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