HJFinAZ: When we really understand the fact of separate realities, we will stop spending so much time and energy trying to change the reality of others.
--Jane Nelsen
What makes us want to control others, not just their actions but their opinions too? Do our personal views need the validation of everyone for us to feel adequate?
Coming to believe that we all have valid perspectives on every experience is akin to coming to believe that there is a Higher Power in charge of our lives. It takes willingness to suspend our assumptions and adopt the principles of life.
It's liberating, even exhilarating, to realize that we all see situations a bit differently. It's like going from a black-and-white picture to Technicolor. Our experiences are enriched as we view them with new attitudes.
How I see my experiences today is up to me; how my friends see theirs is up to them. My view may complement theirs, but it's mine, solely.
Pat this puts me in mind & kinda describes one of my older brothers.It's like only his opinion counts and if you try to express your opinion he'll begin an argument. This also reminds me of my former sister-in-law. She's a very controling person.