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Honestly, I can't answer that one yet. I'm still in the waiting stage. I'll let you know when I know.

Well i met my husband here online..

he wanted to meet right away after we started chatting..

but i couldnt becos i needed to feel comfortable..

and the same when we met a few times he wanted me to
move here to North Carolina..

Of course i loved him but took some time becos i had
2 boys to think about too...

but all worked out and here i am living and married to him

To both scenarios I have to say maybe there are/were some reasons of why he wasn't ready to make a committment as yet.


I wouldn't wait to long and then I'd just move on.

You could wait forever, without sounding negative...Or it could happen tomorrow...Things dont move as fast as we would like them to......

You have the advantage of face to face contact, attraction and persuasion in the first scenario... you have a chance here.

In second scenario, could go on forever... If you don't meet face to face, you are not yet in a relationship, so why act like it's already a done deal.

I personally can't stand endless mailing, hem and haw phone calls ad finitum... and no plan for the meet

Ah the dreaded waiting game.


Hi how are you?

Maximum, 2 months. That would be enough time for him, to figure out if i am worth meeting, and also to save up for his flight ticket.(:Laugh:)

I must say that in the first scenario you give it as long as it takes given other life responsibility and circumstance.

Two months max and if he's still no more than a picture on your monitor... why wait for that kind of fate

Although this is geared to women...I'm gonna put my $.02 in.
(because I am ornery that way)


I usually sen an e-mail! "Do you want to have a relationship with me?" I wait thirty minutes for a response. If no response is received within the given time, I send just one more e-mail ( I hate to tagged a nuisance). "Never mind...NEXT!"

Your killin' me with that wicked sense of humor

Not sure I'm still waiting for him to come into my life.

Tainogirl

Interesting, I met my man from here, we waited two months before we met, but that was because of work commitments, and so on.

We had spoken for the most part, everyday of those two months.

So I think I would have not have waited much longer than that period.

If he had been hesistant, I would have sensed it and I would have dropped him like a hot brick, I know I would, but he was not, work, was the main reason where it was hard for him to make arrangements and when we did finally, it was very different because we knew then it was going to happen.

If you are in this position, and it is not an easy one, I would offer him this, 'Please can we arrange to meet, if you are in any way concerned about it or do not feel up to it, please tell me'

There is nothing wrong in that, some may make it seem like it is desperation, but I do not care, it is not, it is common courtesy that a person who is involved to this depth be honest to the other one about their intentions.

If ther eis heistation I would ask and I found the answer satisfactory and I could accept it, then I would wait, treavel is not cheap and time is hard to spare, so all of that in consideration, I would push it a little, as in my sentence, but then I would leave it if I felt that it was going nowhere, most of the people here I have encountered are looking for a serious relationship, and that is how they seek, and people who do respond should have the courtesy and good manners to show that they are too, if they are not interested then they should say. If they want friendship then they should say. It is not hard is it?

If you are in this position Tain, I wish you the very best of luck.

hello there!!....I am about the same as you, if you know what I mean....frustrated...sometimes you just need to start from scratch....Probably not for you, but for me....

Yep, am right there with you, I cannot bear the nedless calls, emails and all of that when you want to meet, just do it.

I did. I gave him a date, with three weeks notice, told him I have to book flights and stuff, you want it or not?

He did, he took and I went.

Sometimes us wimmen have to take the lead.

I would offer him a date, that is convinient for you and then he can sort his own diary out and decide what is good for him.

Just lay it out there, if he wants to meet you, he will.

Good advice if he's putting you off for no good reason, 'drop him like a hot brick'

As long as things were still moving in a positive direction I would be patient...but once they have stalled and things are at standstill...I wouldn't wait long at all...Life's too short to waste it on someone who doesn't ultimately want the same things out of a relationship as you do and who isn't on the same page...