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I was not interested in an online relationship, I made that very clear from the beginning, he made his position clear and that was it, we did not mess each other around, we so the date was made, I was going, I had the flights booked, we had to make a couple of alterations to the travel plans, I messed one up, human error and that was it.

If he is serious about it, he will overcome any nervousness he may have as nevrves may have something to do with it.

I am rooting for Tain here, two months is wenough time for me, it was long enough for us.

In fact two months is a bloody long time.

I agree with you Sommer. At times it can be costly for one to fly to god knows where. But at least their has to be some sort of willingness on the others part.

Emails and calls are great but if you feel you have a connection you just need to nudge them a bit.

Hi Shirley.

It is costly, time consuming, so there needs to be something nice at the end of it...

When that bandit comes to me, although I am going back to him next time, as he has lots of work stuff going on, he will be treated as he did me, wonderfully.

Now, Tain, where is she, we are all wondering what you are going to do.

I would probably call his mama, and ask what's up with baby boy!

In reality....I think it is wrong to put "a time frame" on anything in regards to a relationship. Make whatever move when it feels right

I see what you are saying Ship, but for the first meeting, then I do not want to wait much longer than that, especially when the contact has been of an intense nature, as ours was, two months was enough for me, to wait and once we had met, we knew we wanted to again. And again.

So for us, that two month contact was enough, we were lucky, I was able to travel, he would not have been because of his commitments in his homeland.

So, I can see where you are coming from, but what is right for one member of the twosome may not be for the other, and that can pose a problem, and we girls like to plan, especially when it involves travelling through countries.

I think we have to be able to have some plans and time limits, or nobidy would ever meet.

I have to get on two planes and enter two countries to go see m man, for now, that involves, timing and planning, I cannot ust jump in my car and pop and see him.

So I needed to know, now I can just book and rock up when I feel like it.

I don't want to wait any longer than it takes to really get to know each other and then make arrangements to meet. I have had things go very well, until the meeting. I don't see any reason to put it off in case you don't have the attraction once you meet.

I really appreciate everyone's comments and I some real gems of wisdom here. Here's my own take on the situation. I know I'm not the most patient of persons but if I've had two years of online friendship(he was the one who reminded me of how long we've known each other)and the guy ups one day and says why not let's see where this can go I'm gonna be curious to see what else there is. Now that we've gotten over some bumps in the road and we decide I dig you, you dig me and we've both said how we feel then its on to the next step, since we've been nothing more than a photo on a screen and a voice on a phone, I say its high time to lay the cards on the table and meet, at first he said he would then decided not to. The hour glass of my patience is almost empty so I've taken a hiatus from accepting e-mails and IM for now. Sometimes people don't appreciate a thing until its lost to them forever.

Hello gorgeous....

I agree with this. I communicated very well with some ladies and then when we met they were really quite different. You need this first meeting as soon as you believe the connection is being made. JMO

Yes it is... could be way 'bloody' too long for me anymore.

Been there done that too... got a few t-shirts from the travels.

I saw a girl from NYC for a couple tears... Faux pax.. years.

Met in Jamaican paradise when I was 38 and just out of a bad marriage.

But that was a real meeting true love at the time.



Good fortune in your decision Tain.

Hi Tain..

Twe years? And you have not met him? I say it is girl.

He's married sweetheart. Move on.

Perfect, two months was long enough for me, and him.

We got it right, and the travel bit is easy, not so easy going home, but once there, then the next plans come in...

Buzzy, I love your bluntness, but Tain is a smart woman, don't you think after two years, she would know, I would know after a week if a person was married.

I have been married, I would know.

Hello John, I agree.

Which direction ya movin?

West possibly??

I found you invest yourself and your heart and all of a sudden you meet and the person is so totally different than you thought they would be. All the electronic stuff doesn't do what just one face-to-face meeting can do. We talked alot about love at first sight, but I know we can make up our minds pretty quickly when we see someone if the attraction and chemistry is there or it isn't.

Hello darlin! I hope you're having a good...morning?

Never met, and hiding behind photos.....can't know for sure what anyone is up to. I say it's still difficult to know if a man is married unless you know for sure, or he tells you. Unless of course you are highly intuitive, then there is no question, you should have known.