Are you KnightMaiden in shining Armour

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TurkishDelight Dublin, Dublin Ireland

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:02 AM CST : Are you KnightMaiden in shining Armour?

As the title says...are you

I have a relative who is..he went to Thailand to have some fun...hired a lass for 2 weeks and then tried to save her by marrying her..Now she is in a worse position that before he saved her..

Do you do it..do you try to save another from their hardship, as you percieve it to be

Or it that plain arrogance or something else

markizamkd25 Republic of Macedonia Macedonia

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:06 AM CST : Are you KnightMaiden in shining Armour?

TurkishDelight: As the title says...are you
I have a relative who is..he went to Thailand to have some fun...hired a lass for 2 weeks and then tried to save her by marrying her..Now she is in a worse position that before he saved her..

Do you do it..do you try to save another from their hardship, as you percieve it to be Or it that plain arrogance or something else

I have friend from Netherland that sent money to his philipino gf for dentist only because she need to be saved and she is poor....
My boss has 23 years old asian gf and he is 46 and he plans to marry her coz she is poor and needs to be saved....

etc etc etc

Sommerauer71 Salzburg, Salzburg Austria

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:06 AM CST : Are you KnightMaiden in shining Armour?

TurkishDelight: As the title says...are you
I have a relative who is..he went to Thailand to have some fun...hired a lass for 2 weeks and then tried to save her by marrying her..Now she is in a worse position that before he saved her..

Do you do it..do you try to save another from their hardship, as you percieve it to be Or it that plain arrogance or something else

Hi Turkish, hope your Christmas in Germany was good.

No, I would not save another from hardship, on entering a relationship, if I was in an established one, I would, do what I could to support them. Emotionally and financially.

Why is the lass in a worse position than before?

markizamkd25 Republic of Macedonia Macedonia

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:08 AM CST : Are you KnightMaiden in shining Armour?

Do not be insulting here im sure not all girls from developing countries r like that..........just obviosly high percent found out how to play

TurkishDelight Dublin, Dublin Ireland

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:14 AM CST : Are you KnightMaiden in shining Armour?

Sommerauer71: Hi Turkish, hope your Christmas in Germany was good.

No, I would not save another from hardship, on entering a relationship, if I was in an established one, I would, do what I could to support them. Emotionally and financially.

Why is the lass in a worse position than before?

Germany was fantastic..if I could persaude "him indoors" to go I would move there in a heartbeat.

The Lass I am talking about, I admire greatly, I dont like her but I admire her courage and strength of charector.

She made a decision to do what she did for a living,he met her that way, took her here, changed how she lived etc. Now he is unemployed due to his desire to save this lass, not thinking about th impact this would have on his job as he didnt take the appropriate channels for leave etc from work, as a result he is now unemployed. She is worse of financailly now than when she worked for herself..all because he wanterd tosave her.
The relationship does not bode well as he fails to see the strength this Lass has ...all he sees is that she needed saving

TurkishDelight Dublin, Dublin Ireland

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:15 AM CST : Are you KnightMaiden in shining Armour?

markizamkd25: Do not be insulting here im sure not all girls from developing countries r like that..........just obviosly high percent found out how to play

Lost in translation maybe

Sommerauer71 Salzburg, Salzburg Austria

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:15 AM CST : Are you KnightMaiden in shining Armour?

TurkishDelight: Germany was fantastic..if I could persaude "him indoors" to go I would move there in a heartbeat.

The Lass I am talking about, I admire greatly, I dont like her but I admire her courage and strength of charector.

She made a decision to do what she did for a living,he met her that way, took her here, changed how she lived etc. Now he is unemployed due to his desire to save this lass, not thinking about th impact this would have on his job as he didnt take the appropriate channels for leave etc from work, as a result he is now unemployed. She is worse of financailly now than when she worked for herself..all because he wanterd tosave her.
The relationship does not bode well as he fails to see the strength this Lass has ...all he sees is that she needed saving

Oh dear, not looking good is it. Sounds like he made a foolish decision.

TurkishDelight Dublin, Dublin Ireland

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:22 AM CST : Are you KnightMaiden in shining Armour?

Sommerauer71: Oh dear, not looking good is it. Sounds like he made a foolish decision.

It got me thinking though..

Are there many like him out there

Male or female

We hear it from the lads on a regular basis that the women want to change them ..is it a womans way of "saving him"

And from independant women who deal with it when a man wants to make life easier for her

Sommerauer71 Salzburg, Salzburg Austria

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:27 AM CST : Are you KnightMaiden in shining Armour?

TurkishDelight: It got me thinking though..

Are there many like him out there Male or female

We hear it from the lads on a regular basis that the women want to change them ..is it a womans way of "saving him" And from independant women who deal with it when a man wants to make life easier for her

Hum, interesting there, Mrs.

I have little time for men who complain that women want to change them, in fact I have little time for women who want to change men. I am like that.

But I ask this, she sounds like she is pretty independent, but then she still allowed a man to save her, so therefore she was co depending on him for cash to save her.

That does not speak of much independence to me, it makes her look like she wanted his cash.

Even if he was persistent, she did not have to take it.

I am pretty independent, if my guy wanted me to give up work, so he could take care of me, he would be confliciting who he fell for in a big way.

Problems, problems, will follow.

Let people be who they are and free, in doing so you keep them close to you.

X_REBEL North Shore, Auckland New Zealand

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:40 AM CST : Are you KnightMaiden in shining Armour?

markizamkd25: I have friend from Netherland that sent money to his philipino gf for dentist only because she need to be saved and she is poor....
My boss has 23 years old asian gf and he is 46 and he plans to marry her coz she is poor and needs to be saved....
etc etc etc

mmm...yummy...

X_REBEL North Shore, Auckland New Zealand

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:48 AM CST : Are you KnightMaiden in shining Armour?

Your chances of finding a "decent" girl, with still the innocent side attached out of those countries i personally believe is far greater...it's worth a try in the end of the day. Just as their are dodgy characters you'll find anywhere in the world today...west or be it east...

TurkishDelight Dublin, Dublin Ireland

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:56 AM CST : Are you KnightMaiden in shining Armour?

Sommerauer71: Hum, interesting there, Mrs.

I have little time for men who complain that women want to change them, in fact I have little time for women who want to change men. I am like that.

But I ask this, she sounds like she is pretty independent, but then she still allowed a man to save her, so therefore she was co depending on him for cash to save her.

That does not speak of much independence to me, it makes her look like she wanted his cash.

Even if he was persistent, she did not have to take it.

I am pretty independent, if my guy wanted me to give up work, so he could take care of me, he would be confliciting who he fell for in a big way.

Problems, problems, will follow.

Let people be who they are and free, in doing so you keep them close to you.

I find it senseless in the point that some women so try to change a man, then they lament he changed

They fell for him that way he was, or how they perceived him to be

As for her being co-dependant..maybe..but now she is in a worse situation than before. Knowing him, he would have overwhelmed her about his riches. The muppet is like that. What he didnt tell her is that he is useless with money and hasnt a penny saved, just living on his earnings extravagantly. Maybe he convinced her that life would be better, different than having to lie on her back for a living, goodness only knows. All I see is a Lass who's entire world has changed and not necessarily for the better

I like you, am independant, fiercely, so to the detriment of myself at times

TurkishDelight Dublin, Dublin Ireland

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:57 AM CST : Are you KnightMaiden in shining Armour?

X_REBEL: Your chances of finding a "decent" girl, with still the innocent side attached out of those countries i personally believe is far greater...it's worth a try in the end of the day. Just as their are dodgy characters you'll find anywhere in the world today...west or be it east...

Dont know about that....she is far from innocent and neither are the dozens of Asian lasses who are here in this country..

X_REBEL North Shore, Auckland New Zealand

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:58 AM CST : Are you KnightMaiden in shining Armour?

TurkishDelight: I find it senseless in the point that some women so try to change a man, then they lament he changed They fell for him that way he was, or how they perceived him to be

As for her being co-dependant..maybe..but now she is in a worse situation than before. Knowing him, he would have overwhelmed her about his riches. The muppet is like that. What he didnt tell her is that he is useless with money and hasnt a penny saved, just living on his earnings extravagantly. Maybe he convinced her that life would be better, different than having to lie on her back for a living, goodness only knows. All I see is a Lass who's entire world has changed and not necessarily for the better

I like you, am independant, fiercely, so to the detriment of myself at times

X_REBEL North Shore, Auckland New Zealand

Fri Jan 9, 2009 6:01 AM CST : Are you KnightMaiden in shining Armour?

TurkishDelight: Dont know about that....she is far from innocent and neither are the dozens of Asian lasses who are here in this country..

you are probably right...who knows...

in todays mixed up world one find scammers everywhere...

TurkishDelight Dublin, Dublin Ireland

Fri Jan 9, 2009 6:07 AM CST : Are you KnightMaiden in shining Armour?

You and I actually agree on something

X_REBEL North Shore, Auckland New Zealand

Fri Jan 9, 2009 6:08 AM CST : Are you KnightMaiden in shining Armour?

TurkishDelight: You and I actually agree on something

well i'm not all that bad, you know...

TurkishDelight Dublin, Dublin Ireland

Fri Jan 9, 2009 6:12 AM CST : Are you KnightMaiden in shining Armour?

X_REBEL: well i'm not all that bad, you know...

Nah..something decent in there..some of us have spotted it

Do you find it hard to get a woman who like yuo just as you are, who doesnt feel the need to change/save you

X_REBEL North Shore, Auckland New Zealand

Fri Jan 9, 2009 6:19 AM CST : Are you KnightMaiden in shining Armour?

TurkishDelight: Nah..something decent in there..some of us have spotted it

Do you find it hard to get a woman who like yuo just as you are, who doesnt feel the need to change/save you

lets just say its a character test for woman and i can discover a lot about a woman's personality when entering into a thread...

druidess6308 Reverse, Pennsylvania USA

Fri Jan 9, 2009 6:24 AM CST : Are you KnightMaiden in shining Armour?

Sommerauer71: Hum, interesting there, Mrs.

I have little time for men who complain that women want to change them, in fact I have little time for women who want to change men. I am like that.

But I ask this, she sounds like she is pretty independent, but then she still allowed a man to save her, so therefore she was co depending on him for cash to save her.

That does not speak of much independence to me, it makes her look like she wanted his cash.

Even if he was persistent, she did not have to take it.

I am pretty independent, if my guy wanted me to give up work, so he could take care of me, he would be confliciting who he fell for in a big way.

Problems, problems, will follow.

Let people be who they are and free, in doing so you keep them close to you.

Very well said, Sommer. Especially the last part. I don't try to change anyone, nor to "save" them. And I don't allow a man to do it for me anymore either. I made that mistake with marriage number three (let him save me), and he tried after that to change me, control me, and lord everything over my head. It took me 5 years to get out of my misery. I'll never do it again. I'm a very strong, independent woman who needs to be allowed to remain that...and if a man loves me for me, then he loves that about me as well.

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