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If I understand what you are saying, then yes, I have allowed myself to lose a woman that I knew could do better than me....and did encourage her to do so, because the guy was one of my friends and he was more financially secure and would be able to provide her and her child with the love and time she/they deserved, where as I had little time and little money, I had cared enough about her well being to introduce them, and put my selfishness of wanting to keep her aside....

I hope that was the question???

oh and they are still together...

Nope, but a brilliant answer any ways...all I can say is Wow, It took at lot for you to do such a noble deed

Maybe I should explain more when I create these threads

When I created this I was thinking about those folks who come into anothers life and change is for the better, they do all the hard work Polishing all the rough edges away with the others pesonality for they see the potenial within...and end up alone for the "Golden one" has now realised that life is so good and move onto an upgraded version.

Another way of looking at it..educating another, encouraging them to be who they were meant to be, for them to walk away.. you opened the "lid of life" for them

well it is sad when people do that, but at least the people doing the good deeds, can sleep well at night....JMO

with some you knock the scabs off and polish them up so their shiny then they run down the the road to the next person <<<look at me i am nice now>>>> i think that they will keep running till they find what they want or will put up with. ,,i got a cpl of painful t shirts then i left ...maybe its me??

I think I get you Turkish,

but the only thing I would say is,
that I would not be prepared to overinvest in a relationship ,
it would heve to be the same level of input from both myself
and the lucky man (lol..)

Its about the 50/50 status I would hope for,
so therefore if per chance yon man moved on for whatever reason,
I will have put in the same ,ie love, nurturing ,time and effort as he did,
therefore I don't believe I would have been cheated out of the person and that some1 else benefited from mu so called hard work.

I that if I leave a relationship a better wiser person ,more power to me and my next partner , and likewise for a guy, if he leaves with the same gifts ,more power to him and his next
partner .
Reap and sow , not just sow and sow !!
hope that makes a bit of sense

You're a good man, Tater.

You mean like the " can of worms"?
Sorry Delight couldn't help it. My mind works in a strange way