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BarrenPneuma Golden Staircase, Ontario Canada

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:30 PM CST : False Advertising...

I have been witness to far too many events here and in real life that have this insoluble taint to them at the great cost and harm to others who never deserved such a thing.
If anyone innocently struggles and toils to scrimp and save long enough to purchase something for the benefit of their life. How can the seller at the time of purchase decide to forfeit the sale to tuck the item away in the dust of their attic?
Ok I am not speaking here of any physical thing here but rather trying pathetically to use some metaphor to lend weight to a much more insidious effect.
If a man or woman is on a dating site. Sending and receiving mail or flowers or whatever mode of communication. The field narrows and phone calls or other more personal modes of connection are attained. Plans are made, dreams are shared, goals and directions become tangible. Why do they suddenly find some miserable pathetic reason to forfeit the entirety of the future?
Are they afraid?
Was it all to give them some small part of being desired?
Is it a game?
Do they realize or care that great hurts can come of this?
Are they so damaged that the nearness to Love terrifies them?

This has nothing to do with me but is rather a concern I have from far too many events I have seen in play here and in real life.
I likewise realize that it takes two to tango but why is it that one always seems to be holding the bag?
To these people I would like to ask why are you out here presenting yourself as available when you do not have the currency in the bank to cash that particular cheque? Because you were hurt in the past does not mean you hava any right to pass this pain around or share it. If you are uncertain as to whether or not you could commit to any relationship then why bother?
Of course take your time but in doing so ensure that whomever has been drawn to you knows exactly where you stand on these issues. Perhaps you need more time- make it clear. Perhaps you can never truly be involved with anyone but yourself- be honest.
Far too many hearts take the damage from those who have lost their ability to communicate, and it makes me sad for the human race that we have to endure this evil silently.

mbcasey North Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:34 PM CST : False Advertising...

Your post is very fitting for me personally. I don't want to go into detail, but your statement "you can never truly be involved with anyone but yourself" rings very true to me.

hopefloats Slim's Lady, Tennessee USA

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:36 PM CST : False Advertising...

BarrenPneuma: I have been witness to far too many events here and in real life that have this insoluble taint to them at the great cost and harm to others who never deserved such a thing.
If anyone innocently struggles and toils to scrimp and save long enough to purchase something for the benefit of their life. How can the seller at the time of purchase decide to forfeit the sale to tuck the item away in the dust of their attic?
Ok I am not speaking here of any physical thing here but rather trying pathetically to use some metaphor to lend weight to a much more insidious effect.
If a man or woman is on a dating site. Sending and receiving mail or flowers or whatever mode of communication. The field narrows and phone calls or other more personal modes of connection are attained. Plans are made, dreams are shared, goals and directions become tangible. Why do they suddenly find some miserable pathetic reason to forfeit the entirety of the future?
Are they afraid?
Was it all to give them some small part of being desired?
Is it a game?
Do they realize or care that great hurts can come of this?
Are they so damaged that the nearness to Love terrifies them?

This has nothing to do with me but is rather a concern I have from far too many events I have seen in play here and in real life.
I likewise realize that it takes two to tango but why is it that one always seems to be holding the bag?
To these people I would like to ask why are you out here presenting yourself as available when you do not have the currency in the bank to cash that particular cheque? Because you were hurt in the past does not mean you hava any right to pass this pain around or share it. If you are uncertain as to whether or not you could commit to any relationship then why bother?
Of course take your time but in doing so ensure that whomever has been drawn to you knows exactly where you stand on these issues. Perhaps you need more time- make it clear. Perhaps you can never truly be involved with anyone but yourself- be honest.
Far too many hearts take the damage from those who have lost their ability to communicate, and it makes me sad for the human race that we have to endure this evil silently.

BarrenPneuma Golden Staircase, Ontario Canada

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:38 PM CST : False Advertising...

mbcasey: Your post is very fitting for me personally. I don't want to go into detail, but your statement "you can never truly be involved with anyone but yourself" rings very true to me.

Some people just manage to Love themselves so much that they cannot abide in the idea of sharing themselves with anyone else Ken. Sad but perhaps they have fought long and hard to get where they are and accept themselves for the first time.
You my friend have all the makings of a great partner and there are many fine ladies who likely believe they could never give to you what you offer as equals. Once they see their true worth they will know differently and then you are going to be harried for choices.
I see your situation as one that is healing many others and in this effort your Karmic repayment will surely be a life of bliss and completion.

mbcasey North Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:39 PM CST : False Advertising...

BarrenPneuma: Some people just manage to Love themselves so much that they cannot abide in the idea of sharing themselves with anyone else Ken. Sad but perhaps they have fought long and hard to get where they are and accept themselves for the first time.
You my friend have all the makings of a great partner and there are many fine ladies who likely believe they could never give to you what you offer as equals. Once they see their true worth they will know differently and then you are going to be harried for choices.
I see your situation as one that is healing many others and in this effort your Karmic repayment will surely be a life of bliss and completion.

It just isn't going to happen Mark. Karma backfires on me everytime. I go all out and get screwed over in the end. Just very tired of it.

druidess6308 Reverse, Pennsylvania USA

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:42 PM CST : False Advertising...

Mark, you ask good questions, and my answer would be that those people are either lazy and selfish, or as incapable of self-honesty as they are being honest with others. So, they get into relationships, destroy them, then moan about how life is so unfair and they can never find anyone good out there. Or complain about how they're always wronged by others, because they color their own reality to make themselves appear blameless, and the blame to be with the other.

I have a sister like this. Everyone's world is supposed to revolved around her, and nothing is ever her fault. Believe me, I've had to straighten my parents out on a few things between she and I. They finally realized what she is, but it took them years.

It's very sad to see, especially in someone I was once so close to that she called me her second mother...and now, because of things she did over the years, and especially when I lost my husband, we barely speak. But, I know who she is, and truth is not her friend. Nor is reality.

Justme4uok Northern CA, California USA

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:43 PM CST : False Advertising...

mbcasey: It just isn't going to happen Mark. Karma backfires on me everytime. I go all out and get screwed over in the end. Just very tired of it.

dcj22 Somewhere, Kansas USA

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:44 PM CST : False Advertising...

BarrenPneuma: Some people just manage to Love themselves so much that they cannot abide in the idea of sharing themselves with anyone else Ken. Sad but perhaps they have fought long and hard to get where they are and accept themselves for the first time.
You my friend have all the makings of a great partner and there are many fine ladies who likely believe they could never give to you what you offer as equals. Once they see their true worth they will know differently and then you are going to be harried for choices.
I see your situation as one that is healing many others and in this effort your Karmic repayment will surely be a life of bliss and completion.

Ken, I don't have Marks ability with words, my friend, but I agree with him 100%. Your time will come, and when it does, watch out! Someone will love you enough to let it overflow and cover you both.

My wish for you is that the sex matches the amount of love.

BarrenPneuma Golden Staircase, Ontario Canada

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:45 PM CST : False Advertising...

mbcasey: It just isn't going to happen Mark. Karma backfires on me everytime. I go all out and get screwed over in the end. Just very tired of it.

Ken you are a wonderful man with a very giving heart. You just have to continue being you and let it settle in that the good you expound naturally is not the taglines that drew others into webs of deceit that wounded them to the point that they no longer recognize the potential of Love. Karma is not something that can be manipulated my friend. Your just rewards for being a man of worth are coming, and when they do you have to be ready to accept them and let them fill you with the bounty of life. Be ready as there is no warning and it will lift you up and send you flying on the same wave your heart has always been on.
Hope, Faith and Love. Without the two prior there is not much possibility of the latter. Love is the only goal worthy of attainment in life and to this you must hold tight to Hope and Faith. One for each hand young man.

hopefloats Slim's Lady, Tennessee USA

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:45 PM CST : False Advertising...

druidess6308: Mark, you ask good questions, and my answer would be that those people are either lazy and selfish, or as incapable of self-honesty as they are being honest with others. So, they get into relationships, destroy them, then moan about how life is so unfair and they can never find anyone good out there. Or complain about how they're always wronged by others, because they color their own reality to make themselves appear blameless, and the blame to be with the other.

hopefloats Slim's Lady, Tennessee USA

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:47 PM CST : False Advertising...

This entire thread has me in tears!

dcj22 Somewhere, Kansas USA

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:49 PM CST : False Advertising...

You are an old, wise soul Mark.

BarrenPneuma Golden Staircase, Ontario Canada

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:50 PM CST : False Advertising...

druidess6308: Mark, you ask good questions, and my answer would be that those people are either lazy and selfish, or as incapable of self-honesty as they are being honest with others. So, they get into relationships, destroy them, then moan about how life is so unfair and they can never find anyone good out there. Or complain about how they're always wronged by others, because they color their own reality to make themselves appear blameless, and the blame to be with the other.

I have a sister like this. Everyone's world is supposed to revolved around her, and nothing is ever her fault. Believe me, I've had to straighten my parents out on a few things between she and I. They finally realized what she is, but it took them years. It's very sad to see, especially in someone I was once so close to that she called me her second mother...and now, because of things she did over the years, and especially when I lost my husband, we barely speak. But, I know who she is, and truth is not her friend. Nor is reality.

I have seen it far too often and it baffles me at times. A person's dreams and desires potentially overwrite what they feel worthy of and they sabotage all hope to ensure that they have been right about themselves all along. There is nothing they will not do or say to make themselves appear as everything they should be but when it comes time to shit or get off the pot they can only see their own failings and lack of worth. Or perhaps find fault in all who would deem themselves worthy to walk side by side with them. Two options in these failures and no good can come from either of them. A messy trail of carnage akin to spiritual serial killing. No crime as there is no body for forensics I suppose but the harm is clearly just a real.
Thankfully I have likewise witnessed a few who have managed to overcome these terrible circles, and it is to those few that the future of hope lies. No weight on them really as all they have to do is maintain themselves and let their actions speak louder than words for any who have the grace of being a witness.

dcj22 Somewhere, Kansas USA

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:50 PM CST : False Advertising...

druidess6308: Mark, you ask good questions, and my answer would be that those people are either lazy and selfish, or as incapable of self-honesty as they are being honest with others. So, they get into relationships, destroy them, then moan about how life is so unfair and they can never find anyone good out there. Or complain about how they're always wronged by others, because they color their own reality to make themselves appear blameless, and the blame to be with the other.

I have a sister like this. Everyone's world is supposed to revolved around her, and nothing is ever her fault. Believe me, I've had to straighten my parents out on a few things between she and I. They finally realized what she is, but it took them years. It's very sad to see, especially in someone I was once so close to that she called me her second mother...and now, because of things she did over the years, and especially when I lost my husband, we barely speak. But, I know who she is, and truth is not her friend. Nor is reality.

My sister is the same.

dcj22 Somewhere, Kansas USA

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:51 PM CST : False Advertising...

hopefloats: This entire thread has me in tears!

BarrenPneuma Golden Staircase, Ontario Canada

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:51 PM CST : False Advertising...

dcj22: You are an old, wise soul Mark.

Paws once asked me if I knew Moses. I think he may have been on to something there. Damn the eighties and their dislocated memories... Ah well one day it will all come back to me I hope.

dcj22 Somewhere, Kansas USA

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:53 PM CST : False Advertising...

BarrenPneuma: Paws once asked me if I knew Moses. I think he may have been on to something there. Damn the eighties and their dislocated memories... Ah well one day it will all come back to me I hope.

The 80s were a bad decade for us all, my friend.

Tater springfield, Illinois USA

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:53 PM CST : False Advertising...

mbcasey: It just isn't going to happen Mark. Karma backfires on me everytime. I go all out and get screwed over in the end. Just very tired of it.

Well the better you live you life, the more heartbreak and discouragement crosses your path.... This happens for a reason... The reason is because GOD wants us to live in this world, but not be a part of this world, for he will give betters treasures in Heaven, then man can aquire here on Earth.. He wants people to not love this world so much, that they do not have time for him....

When do most people search for GOD, when their life is going badly, and if you have everything you want, you will feel that you don't need him, then people tend to worship themselves and their worldly things...

Nice post Barren

hopefloats Slim's Lady, Tennessee USA

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:54 PM CST : False Advertising...

What I wouldn't give to be able to stay in this thread....but I have to leave. That is if I can see through the tears to drive!

Blessings to all,
Merky

laura225 Somewhere, New York USA

Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:55 PM CST : False Advertising...

BarrenPneuma: If you are uncertain as to whether or not you could commit to any relationship then why bother?
Of course take your time but in doing so ensure that whomever has been drawn to you knows exactly where you stand on these issues. Perhaps you need more time- make it clear. Perhaps you can never truly be involved with anyone but yourself- be honest.

Will NEVER happen on order, Mark!

Leave alone those who does it purely for the "fun"

of it - you surely realize there are many: here and in RL.

Leave alone predators of all kinds who won't even bother reading it.

Now, about other's:

what comes to my mind now -
this cute redhead (don't remember her name) who a few months ago shared her story and asked as all for advice. The guy she misled was about to sue her

and she was scared. Remember her crooked story?
They both got emotionally attached to each other but her low self-esteem and fear of rejection caused her to make up stories she couldn't "un-make" in order to meet him?

Anyways - it's up to us here and in RL to be cautious, alert, and to take our digital relationships/friendships onto the next level (move it into real world) asap.

That or not taking chances at all

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