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Thanks to all who had some substance to share. Your insights and experiences are helpful and appreciated. I don't really like to banter mindlessly or read others' that do so, as far as I am concerned, we can end this thread. Again, thank you.

Hi,

I was in a relationship where my parner had a hysterectomy.

I guess people are different in a lot of ways and react different to events in their life. But when she went thrus the procedure she didnt feel a ''whole'' woman. She was only 35 and she had wanted more children.

She became extremely self conscious about it. Sex was out of the question for us for about 4 months and then we took it very slowly.
Lots of tears and reassurance were required. I found the mental side of it more of a problem than the physical.

Again after a lot of reassurance and romance she came to realise that what happened was normal and she grew out of her inferiority
and insecurity.

Hope this helps.

You are a good man Vinny. That is also what happened with me
but somewhat worse. With the help of a loving and patient
husband and a wonderful OBGYN I was able to overcome those
problems.

Trust me here...you are anything but. I had prostate cancer five years ago and a major heart attack last april...you can and do overcome.

My hysterectomy was one of the best things that ever happened to me! I was in my early 40's and already had three children so that angle wasnt the problem for me that it is for some other women.

I had gone through years of very painful periods and reached the stage where I was having a period for more of the time than I was normal - dark days indeed......

The op took a couple of months to get over and within a couple more months I was seeing a me that I hadnt been in touch with for years, it was amazing, I had energy again and enthusiasm for life but haha, I soon found this was down to the hormone implant they had left at the time of the op - I started on HRT and stuck that out for another 6 months before realising that I didnt want to be taking pills for years and would find another way - Positivity won the day, positive self regard is incredible medicine.........

That was all about 15 yrs ago now and I have made some big changes in my life which I feel I would never have done if Id remained bogged down with not just the pain but the hormonal imbalances that were going on at that time.

I regard it as anything but an unfortunate procedure and as far as sex goes, it was better than ever before once Id adjusted my attitude

Same here but was not blessed with children,I struggled with the same facts,tryed everything first,but was becomimg sicker so I didnt have a choice.......all better now !!!!

i can relate to how she felt, the mental scars last much longer

im so sorry you missed out on the chance of children your own health was important guess i was lucky

Mine was due to a bad case of endometriosis that was very painful. So my hysterectomy was a blessing. I should have stated that last night when I posted.
I had 3 children and a tubal already so I was ok with it all. But have had friends that has went through the sadness that some of you have experienced.

So sorry to hear that, but glad things are better now.

thank you,I have my kittys ,and a wonderful godchild,I am blessed in many other ways,I had a wonderful Dad!!!!

thanx sweetie I had endo myselfsince I was 16 they didnt know much about endo then very painful I feel for you,I walked a mile in your shoes,very ruff.hows DAD!

My lady friend had this procedure about a millennium ago. And I have to say that Sharon, (at 65) is the most sexual woman, I have EVER known. My last wife (Note...the emphasis is on LAST ), also had the same procedure, with the same results. I just wish her sexual activity was with me!!


I am not saying that having this procedure is in any way responsible for their interest in sex, but I will say that it hasn't impeded their sex drive or passion, either

Good Morning Sweetie,
Dad is still losing weight and getting more depressed each day. He is tired of all the test and not finding out what is wrong.
You have mail too!

So sorry to hear that,he,s in my prayers

What many women fail to understand is that sexual desire is normal. A lack of sexual desire is not normal.

I have seen guys who were so frustrated with their wives because they don't want to have sex anymore.

I will never understand why women talk to their friends about everything under the sun, but they won't ask their GYN about their sex drive and how to improve it.

One of the side affects after a hysterectomy is hormone changes. Often there is a decrease in sexual desire which can be adjusted through hormone therapy.

True was on hormones helped alot great for flashes also,but took me of becausemy mother has breast cancer told me my rate was to high because of that......anything for hot flashes ,blackkohosh does nothing for me the patch was great but that went bye bye