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sorry to disagree. Those in my age group dated differently than our parents did. There was a certain protocol to dating. This generation dates differently than we did. They are a cyber generation. It only makes sense to cyber date. They have a different protocol than we did.

It's called "change". Get used to it!!

I also think kids tend to want to get into relationship way too young. In my time (lol), I wasn't very interested. Having lots of friends (and no sex), was more important to me. And, playing sports, playing music, and studying and travelling. I'm glad I did. I get bored real easily, so I try to distance myself a bit when I see a guy gets too attached and I'm not interested. I didn't want to hurt them (since I didn't and don't want to get my heart broken too often). Times have changed a lot. Kids grow up very soon and want to do "grown up" stuff, while they aren't really ready for it emotionally and I even think biologically (12-13 yr olds who get pregnant). I think that the human being didn't change for the good.

HI i agree totally with you, think kids as i call them at that age are supposed to be enjoying life instead of throwing it away, but wat id like to no is have they no guidance in life

And who gave you the right to judge?
Why is it wrong if an 18, 19 year old wants to find someone and have a long term relationship with them?
That just means they'd rather start the rest of their life sooner than others.

Being in a relationship is "throwing your life away"? Why are you on this site? Pot, kettle, black.

The Op had no bad intentions, i believe so!

I agree, and most of the posters haven´t read the OP comment correctly.

However, and I´ve said this before, I really don´t believe I would have been here at that age if the option was available. I was out most nights enjoying myself and meeting real people.

i don't think she was judging as such, just telling young people not to rush into serious relationships ( marriage), just yet.

Wouldn't you like a good education or career, before you started having kids?

What's wrong with a little harmless advise?

I know some mean people, who think all of us young people shouldn't be on the site, but the Op is NOT one of them.

I personally think it's unwise to get into something serious at 18 or 19. Most people that age think they know everything, while they don't! I was one of them, but thank God i didn't make some really bad choices like marriage or kids.

My nephew is one of the many i know, who have made some really huge mistakes. A child at 20, no college education, and no job.

what they think "love" is , is really called infatuation

Agree. Did the same when I was that age. Why be in a "short-term" relationship? Everyone wants the ultimate life time committment, just takes working through the nuts to get to the icecream (bad), all I could think of. I'm old. LOL.

You know, Jan, i get a little wiser eveyday. I probably wouldn't have found any sense in what you're saying, a year ago. I don't think young people, who don't really have any sound direction in life, should be thinking of commitments like marriage or kids.


I normally go crazy inside, when my 20 yr old nephew says things like, he has always wanted to be a dad, and is making the right choice. He was previously studying to be a chef, and as i've heard, has recently quit school. His girlfriend's pregnancy, was definitely NOT an accident. It really makes me sad, the way he refuses to listen to me!! Don't even ask about thís girl he's living with.

Are you telling me that I really am NOT in love with all these beautiful women here??



And here I thought that is why I couldn't make up my mind..

I think they missed a fatherfigure and are spoiled by their mums

Jay, We don't want to tell you how to live. We are just trying to give you sound advice based on our own experiences. I'm 51. I was 19 through 1 year of my life. If I could I would go back and do a few things differently. I always tell my son and his friends to wait till they are 25, 26 before they get involved in a long term re-ship. So far they are following that advice and having a blast. Their friends who don't are going through a lot of heart ache and are now paying for babies they are not living with. That is why you see so many single parents. The part of your brain that helps you make correct decissions based on previous actions, does not fully develope until age 26 in males and 24 in females. Date women, have fun. But before you settle down, learn who you are first. Then you'll make better choices later.