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Yes, I think it is an interesting hypothetical.

Mainly because issues like this are not always so black and white.

Yes, it worked extremely well for Ms Harriman.

And many others no doubt.

wouldnt waste my breathe on him probably married to.

odds are its a scam to get you to pay again. Some sites are said to do this when you cancle or stop paying.

Just look at it logically...

Ignore the e-mail and always wonder about what it said...

Or open it and see what life has to offer you today.

It's probably something you're not interested in, but you won't know unless you look. I once came very close to doing the same thing, but changed my mind at the last minute. I found a really special friend in the bargain..

Thanks Karen,

Yes, I know you did

And you would say that, wouldn't you?

I made a dear friend 12 yrs ago, and stayed with that person, and occasionally still email each other, always just as friends. And all because I replied to an email on a community building site where I sent out a message to members there, for accommodation in New York. This person was in Texas. Had I thought this person was an axe murderer, a fake, after only one thing, blah, blah...I would never have met him.

So, for CS'ers out there, now there is a case in point. This Texas guy man is extremely wealthy and still single, recently upgrade his porsche to one costing $200,000+. Yet money has never been the attraction in my friendship with him.

Well, maybe so, and I honestly couldn't give a hoot, but I figure that if the site truly wanted to attract me to rejoin, they would post a much more appealing 'scammer', one that said he was looking for a meaningful, permament loving relationship, etc, etc.

Not one whose profile, on the face of it, can be shot to pieces in seconds.

aahhh man...just bloody pay them and find out....

Probably, most likely.

But we don't know. This is another exercise in assumptions. Something I need to ever mindful of, too.

It does remind of someone I know who was divorced many years ago. He has had a lady friend for years, and he refuses to entertain marriage, or even any live in arrangements. He got badly burnt in his marriage years ago, and so they decided way back that they only meet on weekends, where she stays over. He doesn't want kids and that is fine with her. In between, she is an independent woman, has her own career, he retired early from his govt job, and concentrates on his property development ventures.

So you see, that arrangement suits them both. Not everyone seeks marriage, live in arrangements etc. It is something we do need to remember. We are all different. What suits one does suit another.

I can't believe you made that connection and zeroed in on the situation I was talking about...but you are right (was it that transparent??? )

Anyway, it's just as you say. Your tiny e-mail that came out of the blue also brought you a wonderful friend.

Good things happen to people who keep their hearts and minds open. There's far less risk to doing that than there is to wrap yourself in fear and assumptions.

Why walk through the fields in gloves when the grass is as soft as the breast of doves???

Hey, X. That's not what I am concerned about.

We are having a discussion about some important issues here.

Anyway, if I resubscribe, I'm gonna look up your profile and add you to my "Hot List"!!!

Those gloves come in handy when pulling weeds.

Hi Karen Kat.

He might be. But we don't know that. Yet

Can women have anything important to talk about other than gossip?
Hey i know you're taking a stabb in the dark...but honey that's a miss....as my "hotlist" is full on that site...

Hello! I just sent you an e-mail.

So true, it is easy to make assumptions, and perhaps most of the time we may be correct. But until we check things out with evidence, we won't ever know.

And what a beautiful analogy you provide about grass and doves

Thanks.

Don't worry, X. Just wanting to get ya going!

Till ya hit the "thorns" in the field full of grass and start swearing... and then the uggliest dove you've seen in you life, shits on your head...

Well, here's the rest of it just for fun...

Why do you walk through the fields in gloves
Missing so much and so much?
A fat white lady whom nobody loves
Why do you walk through the fields in gloves
When the grass is as soft as the breast of doves
and shimmering sweet to the touch?

do you really wanna do that...