claudya: yes ,Some is sad but u know something ,if a person doesn't like himself/herself for how he/she looks and doesn't accept himself /herself for how he/she is ,then how he/she wants the other person love him/her? The idea is to learn to be sure by us ,to accept ourselves how we are and then to look for other person to like us.
Yes it's true that if people don't love themselves first and foremost then how can they expect someone else to love them or see them in a certain light.I used to be like that for along until I learned to love myself and accept myself for who and what I was. I always seemed to seek reasurance from people on whether I was good enough looking,a good person etc etc. I had low self-esteem issues too.And I'm not afraid to admit that maybe I still do.Cause they're still times when I don't think I'm qutie worthy of having certain things in my life.Then I come to terms with my feelings and tell myself that I shouldn't be feeling this way.Maybe I'm an attention getter too.
I don't like to assume anything about someone but maybe those people weren't taught/told to do that as a child. And the cycle continues.I'm not making excuses for anyone cause some people are attention getters as someone else stated. But just becasue some people might be that way doen't mean that all people are like that.