In response to: Maisie: After 6 years of marriage I discovered my husband's secret collection of ladies underwear which he had obviously worn, complete with 2 sets of silicone boobs. So I obviously hadn't known him at all.
Friend of mine's dead husband was into that. She said they would go to parties where he and the other guys were dressed up and stuff. Said they had great sex after. Weird as it seems, nobody got hurt, screwed each others wives, had sex with kids, just got turned on. Guess they had a relationship where they knew each other.
To me, anybody who can't open up is extremely weird.