I want a relationship, but only on my terms....

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roseofsharon Buggered if I know where...?!!, Hampshire, England UK
fireliter: how self absorbed or lame is this?

relationships should always be give and take, how can understanding even be had in a relationship with an attitude like this?

Comments or statements similar to "on my terms" sounds more like a prerequisite for making a major purchase not the making and building of a strong healthy relationship.

What are your terms?


Hi ya, Dan!! wave

I don't have many demands, though RESPECT would be crucial. Not a demand though.... if I have to demand it, its not gonna be much of a relationship, is it?!

I think people have become accustomed to treating others rather shabbily these days.... disposable/throw away society. And, sadly, that attitude has overflowed into treatment of others and upon relationships, not just the material things any more....
sigh

But.... "on my terms"?? No, I believe I am flexible and accommodating towards others's wishes and feelings. But, by no means perfect... always room for improvement, eh?!

Good thread, my friend. thumbs up

teddybear



roseofsharon Buggered if I know where...?!!, Hampshire, England UK
Dan....... are you coming back to this thread at some point?! dunno

cheers
Fallingman Dublin, Dublin Ireland
Maybe he has switched to wool!

How can you have a relationship only on your own terms...that is a dictatorship!

wave



roseofsharon Buggered if I know where...?!!, Hampshire, England UK
Fallingman: Maybe he has switched to wool!

How can you have a relationship only on your own terms...that is a dictatorship!


Of course it is!!

Hi ya, FM... wave

teddybear
Fallingman Dublin, Dublin Ireland
roseofsharon: Of course it is!!

Hi ya, FM...


"Oh Rose of Alabama......"

Hi there! wave
Tomty dublin, Dublin Ireland
What's wrong with finding someone who suits you? Should we all just settle down with the people we are with or should we seek someone who is more likely to fit us? There will always be give and take but why make the whole relationship based on negotiation



roseofsharon Buggered if I know where...?!!, Hampshire, England UK
Fallingman: "Oh Rose of Alabama......"

Hi there!


Huhh...??!! confused I've never been to Alabama, am I missing something then?!
dunno
Or perhaps I am missing something in Dublin??!! batting

grin



LACali Southern California, California USA
I have a relationship on my own terms. With myself. And I'm happy with it. And with me. It took this site to show me the light....Thank you CS.
fireliter Allen Park, Michigan USA
roseofsharon: Dan....... are you coming back to this thread at some point?!


My apologizes Rose, but I've become afflicted with this horrible condition... work.

The scariest thing is, I'm actually beginning to prefer it over all those other ways of occupying my time.

Sommerauer71: Exactly loverboy and afternoon to you.

Those boundaries are not set in stone, but the fundamentals basics are there, faithfulness, loyalty, those should not change, but

life will change, events will happen, but they are events and circumstances, And this requires compromise, IMO


the true solid basics should not change and that is why long marriages do exist, because they do not.
Agreedhug hug hug thumbs up thumbs up thumbs up

Hi Sommer!wine hug hug
Arlene101 Cape Breton Island, Nova Scotia Canada
LACali: I have a relationship on my own terms. With myself. And I'm happy with it. And with me. It took this site to show me the light....Thank you CS.
Damn straight Cali!!! I knew it a while ago and my Mom is still wanting me to settle. My Dad and Stepmom on the other hand know better now.wave




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