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Why do people get surprised, when others don't find 'big' attractive? A million people may say that it's what is on the inside that matters, but i think that's just a fantasy. I would think that, when a person is attracted to you, they are attracted to you as a whole, whether you have three fingers, or no toes. People come as a package, not bits and pieces apart.


We could go on and on and on and on, about this, but the fact still remains, that some people consider looks when chosing a partner. Everyone is different!

Some like big women, some don't, some prefer blondes, some afros. It's not strange to have a preference at all. Personally, i am not surprised when a man says he likes a bigger or smaller woman than i am. It's just life, and i wouldn't lose any sleep over it.


If you are comfortable being big, then that's what matters, and you will find a man who prefers YOU. If you feel insecure because of your weight, then do something about it.

Ditto that - and I am not too small and not too big...just right with a bit to love on

I agree. When being someone's friend.

But no way would I date a guy who is obese, let alone sleep with him. That would tell me so much about how badly he looks after himself, and the crap he injests. I guess this would apply the other way 'round.

I am no waif, but do my best never to go 'over my limit', and set about losing weight healthily when it starts to creep up, such as over Chrissie.JMO

Who do you now skips profiles? Or is that an assumption based on your feelings

Just being curious as this subject intriques me. Women are their own worst enemy sometimes, particulary when they focus to much on how they look inside of who they are

I guess not all men well ignore big and beautiful women.
but some guys they look at first in our figures and etc.
some guys also they well look at first great personality before our beatuty outside.



but in these days mostly guys they like to see regular figures

men who skip full figured woman are afrad that they cant handel all of that ,

Sir, you may have a point there! You just solved our mysery!

oh, oh, I know !!!!!

In some cultures, a big woman is considered a status symbol for a man, showing everybody that he is being able to take care of his woman.

In other cultures, mostly in the western culture, smaller women are THE status symbol... just because some nutcase some time came up with a model named Twiggy.... it was before my time, though and therefore I really don't know when that lady showed up...

But: We all seem to be getting fuller bodied and therefore in about 10years time this question will not even be of interest anymore...


And; I do like a man to have a few pounds more - can't stand those skinny dudes, their pants fall of the not-even-there-butt when they walk....and skinny people are most of the time narcists (in love with themselves - not to mistake with the word nazi)

A cuddly bear is what I like

Oh, must add another down side to dating a very large man...

I was once almost crushed by one

True!

In most parts of Africa, the bigger she is, the happier he is, however, this is not the case, in Nairobi. Men are slowly beginning to warm up to Twiggy and Co.

Then you should have taken the top position! hehehe

Then you should have taken the top position! hehehe

venere08: I agree. When being someone's friend.

But no way would I date a guy who is obese, let alone sleep with him. That would tell me so much about how badly he looks after himself, and the crap he injests. I guess this would apply the other way 'round.

I am no waif, but do my best never to go 'over my limit', and set about losing weight healthily when it starts to creep up, such as over Chrissie.JMO


Oh, must add another down side to dating a very large man...

I was once almost crushed by one ..... Then you should have stayed on top to be safe!

Venere A very unkind thing to say in my opinion as sometimes being big is not a choice but can be due to illness! So please don't be cheeky.

Yes yes and more yes!.... .....morning venere08

I was trying to be a bit more subtle about where the bigger ladies are in favour, for fear of being called prejudiced....

Of course there are exceptions!She may have been speaking in general terms....