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yes...I believe it is very possible. Love isn't meted out in portions. Love know no directions. In carpentry we use waht is called a water level. Water will always find it's own level...and so will love




Stop...JMO

Nope i dont beleive you can actually love 2 people at one time..

I wouldnt even put myself out there to begin with..

Loving one person is alot to handle

Of course it's possible. It's another way to mess up your life too.

Someone wrote last year in here that each love is its own and hence does not stop you from loving twice.

I think that was in regards to "ever love again" but if that is possible, what say you can not do it at the same time?



[Genderising mode ON] At least women with their multi-tasking ability - us guys better stay on target [Genderising mode OFF]

Of course we can love more than one person at once - we all do that every day of our lives! The argument, however, is that romantic love is sui generis - that is, completely unique - and therefore not susceptible to such division.

I don't think it's *practically* divisible. Romantic love simply consumes too much energy and time. However, many people have had multiple loves in their lives, and claim to love them all, though in different ways. We've all read about men or women who've maintained spouses with families in different locations, but very few of us would be psychologically capable of doing that.

If you doubt that's possible, try the following thought-experiment: you're deeply in love with your present spouse, he or she takes a trip and is reported killed in a plane crash. A couple of years pass, and you meet a very special someone, and fall deeply in love. You are together for a few years - when suddenly your previous spouse returns!

Now you're deeply in love with two people, no?

I did see that movie too

Sorry, tripped, there was a involved in the above.

Sure you can love more than one person at a time, I don't feel it's right, to have a relationship with more then one at a time though...JMO

Yes, and you forget he was also in love with Wilson. Personally, I think Wilson used him and was in love with Spaulding!

Are you intimate with both?

Just one or neither?

Well someone was bound to ask....

Ambrose, my friend, I saw that movie, too...and that would be so hard on a person. My thoughts on this, though, are that you have grieved and moved on, and found another to love who matches who you are now in life. Your love for that other person would never be the same that it was before.

Yes, I still love my late husband. I always will. But if he returned today, I wouldn't be able to love him the way I did before. I have changed through the experiences I had with his death...and I can't go backward. That is true for others I have loved strongly in this life. I believe that once you truly love someone, you always love them in some way...love doesn't die if it truly existed in the first place.

There is another that I love strongly as well, and I always will...but he is not the man that can walk beside me for the rest of my life, and I am no longer the woman I was before, that it could have worked with had he given it a chance years ago. So...I'll love him 'til the day I die, but we will only ever be friends. That love is not the healthy, full, and deep love I share now with Buzzy. It doesn't even hold a candle to it.

Do I believe one can love two people equally in a romantic way? No...and a choice must be made. Your heart will guide you the right one, Soulmate. Listen to it.

Blimey... there WAS a movie? I just felt it was the perfect set-up for a script, possibly a soap-script as it would allow for a...

hang on a second... DALLAS!

I'm not sure about that at all, Dru. To tell the truth, I always rooted for the guy who came back from death, and dislike the idea that one should automatically assume that the current love is superior to the previous one (due to life-circumstances or whatever). It could very well be that the soul connection was deeper with the former love. There aren't any guarantees that one can find it again in such a powerful form, I think.

A very interesting and troubling thought-experiment involves imagining BOTH your loves starting out at the same time on a roughly equal playing field. I often have wondered how I'd do against GG's former love/husband if we were both trying to win her heart at the same time. Of course, I'd win hands-down, I think, because we're more compatible...uh, right, GG? :uoh:

I know what you mean about loving many.

but i am talking about loving someone deeply..as in a spouse..

No i cannot love another like i love my husband..

if i did that means i didnt love him like i thought..

I would never/ever put myself there in the first place..

And a good morning to you ambrose

Well, I do tend to agree with my son: Why trade down? I believe our current love OUGHT TO BE our best love. It's part of life's learning curve, I'm thinking.

If I'm right, then Buzzy is more compatible and more deeply connected to you - at least potentially - than your former husband(s), D. That is, if I were in your situation, I'd like to believe that he'd win my heart if he were vying with you along with the others...?

Are you going to accuse me of thinking too much again, D??

Morning, Joanne.

But what do you think of the "return from death" thought-experiment? What if something - Zeus forbid - happened to Eric, and you believe he was dead? Then, a few years down the line, you meet someone else and fell deeply in love (possible, no?).

THEN - Eric returns!

You now love two people romantically and deeply, am I right?