Posted: Dec 29, 2007, 1:48 PM CST
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I've just got to ask Because there must be an answer ?? All these ladies on all these sites are saying that they are looking for a man that .......Is Honest Open Commented Affectionate Spontaneous Romantic Dedicated A good listener One that will communicate and have honest conversation Truthful Has a good sense of humour .These are some of the things that they say there looking for .Well here I am ???? I truly believe the things they are looking for is really what they want and need. BUT !!!! They have been In a relationship for so long they have learned to just settle for what they have or what they think they have ???.Bit please trust me every man is not the same !!! I've been on my own from the age of 16 started a job now I'm 44 .A single father of twin girls that I have raised .They are 22 both finished school and have good jobs today .Ive always been a gentlemen .And taught my girls that any relationship must start with complete Honesty !! I'm all about the little things in life .Such as supriseing you with breakfast in bed .A little card of encouragement. flowers ....just because !!! caring about what you say & feel because what you say & feel does matter to me .The bottom line is they say these things are what they are looking for .But they just SETTLE .And every day that passes is a day lost !!Please some one tell me whats wrong with this picture??????????Always RAY
Hello Ray,
Most women are honest in their search for that kind of man. The thing is that they have been treated so unfairly and lost the will to try to find anyone that is that good. Life has been a roller coaster ride of emotional distress that has left them believing that this is all there is and all they can find or attract. The truth is that you have to believe in yourself and know that you are worth everything, before you can move on to better relationships. Ones self-esteem is such a fragile thing and when damaged or broken , it can be very hard if not impossible to repair. Some people never had someone to love them so unselfishly and completely without any strings. For the ones that are so fortunate to have this or had this, you will never settle for less. We all want the golden ring of happiness.