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ladyblue53 Talladega, Alabama USA
Sat Dec 29, 2007 1:48 PM CST : Lonesome in bama....
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confused I've just got to ask Because there must be an answer ?? All these ladies on all these sites are saying that they are looking for a man that .......Is Honest Open Commented Affectionate Spontaneous Romantic Dedicated A good listener One that will communicate and have honest conversation Truthful Has a good sense of humour .These are some of the things that they say there looking for .Well here I am ???? I truly believe the things they are looking for is really what they want and need. BUT !!!! They have been In a relationship for so long they have learned to just settle for what they have or what they think they have ???.Bit please trust me every man is not the same !!! I've been on my own from the age of 16 started a job now I'm 44 .A single father of twin girls that I have raised .They are 22 both finished school and have good jobs today .Ive always been a gentlemen .And taught my girls that any relationship must start with complete Honesty !! I'm all about the little things in life .Such as supriseing you with breakfast in bed .A little card of encouragement. flowers ....just because !!! caring about what you say & feel because what you say & feel does matter to me .The bottom line is they say these things are what they are looking for .But they just SETTLE .And every day that passes is a day lost !!Please some one tell me whats wrong with this picture??????????Always RAY help
Hello Ray,
Most women are honest in their search for that kind of man. The thing is that they have been treated so unfairly and lost the will to try to find anyone that is that good. Life has been a roller coaster ride of emotional distress that has left them believing that this is all there is and all they can find or attract. The truth is that you have to believe in yourself and know that you are worth everything, before you can move on to better relationships. Ones self-esteem is such a fragile thing and when damaged or broken , it can be very hard if not impossible to repair. Some people never had someone to love them so unselfishly and completely without any strings. For the ones that are so fortunate to have this or had this, you will never settle for less. We all want the golden ring of happiness.
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Zoomie Colorado Springs, Colorado USA
Sun Dec 30, 2007 4:48 AM CST : Lonesome in bama....
Hey everyone, I just signed up on this site. I'm currently stationed in Colorado but have come home for the holidays to find that most of my old friends have already married and settled down. I've only been gone for two years, but it seems like I've already been forgotten. Guess I'm just a little lonely and really want to meet some new people. Feel free to drop an email!
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BamaBob Cullman, Alabama USA
Mon Dec 31, 2007 5:03 PM CST : Lonesome in bama....
Hang in there loomie. Don't know about now, but when I was a student at Auburn there were lots of places around Columbus and Phenix City where a guy could have fun. Of course, that has been 30 years ago..so, things do change. I know that I'm deifnitely isolated and alone and that's the whole reason for being on the internet... happy hunting!
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Zoomie Colorado Springs, Colorado USA
Thu Jan 3, 2008 3:32 AM CST : Lonesome in bama....
Thanks! I know of a few places, but the 18-21 age gap kind of limits the choices. Most of the usual social scenes for my age group (bars, clubs, etc.) have a 21 year-old minimum. With limited leave time it's really hard finding anywhere else. dunno
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BamaBob Cullman, Alabama USA
Thu Jan 3, 2008 5:15 AM CST : Lonesome in bama....
Hey... you're only 19!.... Heck dude... check out what's going on at all the high schools in your area! You're ripe for the young ladies in church... man, you've got so many possibilities the world is wide open for you!...It might help to have a bud to run with ya but you can pop in and out of all the bowling alleys and any place that kids hang out... you should be chasing women from 16 to 25...just be careful not to catch one under 19!... My 1st ex was 15 and I was 20 when we started dating. She turned 16 a couple of weeks later. When we married she was only 18 and we both should have waited at least 3 more years. SO... you just hang in there and do some living... you'll learn more in the next few years than you can imagine. With all those hormones speeding around in you now you can't imagine how different things will be when you're 25 and ready to settle down. Nowadays I would not even consider marriage before at least 25...at least get a career started and get pointed in one direction... so... finding a place to pick up chicks... McDonald's, Taco Bell, Jack's, anywhere! Lots of towns I've been in the kids hang out at Walmart on Fri & Sat night simply because there is hardly anywhere else for them to go that they can afford.
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Deafman huntsville, Alabama USA
Sun Jan 6, 2008 8:44 PM CST : Lonesome in bama....
This is my first time here... I'm new to here as wel.
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BamaBob Cullman, Alabama USA
Tue Jan 8, 2008 10:26 PM CST : Lonesome in bama....
Defman...hang in there. Huntsville is not all that far away from me... maybe one day we'll just have a big party and invite the whole crowd. I've got several neighbors who live in the Decatur/Huntsville area (I'm on smith lake...all vacation homes around me)....
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ALSuthrnChick Dothan, Alabama USA
Fri Jun 5, 2009 6:13 PM CST : Lonesome in bama....
Hey Ya'll...New to this and the single life at the same time....Been trying to find my way around herefrustrated . Ya'll get the picture......Help is requested...but understands how busy everyone is.......so Ya'll take care now...hear?...Debbiwave
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noneother Huntsville, Alabama USA
Thu Jun 11, 2009 7:54 PM CST : Lonesome in bama....
Partly what's wrong, are people's hangups.

Their programing is malfunctioning, and has been most, if not all their life.

They want someone who looks good, or at least makes them look good.

Some want somebody they can control. Oh, all kinds of misc. stuff.

Mostly what I found out years ago on the dating site's was, 97% lied one way or the other, beginning with their pic's.

So, it doesn't matter what we do or don't look like or even how we are - not many of us, are satisfied with ourself.

:-)

My best to you all in your search.
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ALSuthrnChick Dothan, Alabama USA
Sun Aug 16, 2009 3:30 PM CST : Lonesome in bama....
Hey Ray!!!

Im not sure what others are searching for; as you know what they say bad boys rule.......which I think women around your age are looking for the gentleman type. It seems like you have raised your girls, and I give you an extra pat on the back for thathead banger Perhaps a photo would help...you see even though I have not been on here very long, I started corresponding with a nice man and through e-mails and just listening to him, he turned out to be a cross dresser and um...wanted to be a girl.doh Yes'um what a slap in the face...sooo..perhaps a photo would help. You seem genuine and that is what comes across in your post.....so bite the bullet, have someone take a few snapshots of you.....I know I had toomumbling and keep in touch if you like. Friend here...open all hours...Debbi
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