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hey.i want to know why im so,so,so shy at approching girls.i swear every time i see one i might like i just chicken out and can not walking up to her.i dont know what it is but im eat up with it.i guess getting a girl is so great of a thing that i cant make it happen.this is ruining my life.people that isnt shy like this just dont understand really how hard this is unless you was like me.girls are on my mind 24/7 and its not just the fun,but its mostly wanting love.if a girl that i liked would walk up to me then i could talk.i guess i just need one to approach me and that would lighten my heart and make me feel so happy.i know deep down i can be the right kind of person that a girl should want but still i just have a big problem walking up to them.just wondering why girls dont stare,wave,smile or something to show her wants to talk and if one did then i think i could talk.i just dont know what i can or cant have and its just hard for me.i cant seem to get set up by anyone and it seems that i just have a hard time.i wish a girl for me that matches me and that is a match would get online and talk but its like i cant even find one online.if i wasnt shy then i would already be married now but i have this problem and it is keeping me from gettting what i strive for.

Dear Derrell,
Im afraid I wouldnt make a good match for you myself but I thought I would offer a little advise that might help.
It might be fear getting in the way of finding that someone special. When we approach someone to talk there is always that possibility of rejection and rejection isnt a very nice feeling so that possiblity may be lingering over you and hindering you from even making an attempt.
Alot of women feel that way too and alot of women prefer the man to make the first move. Young girls usually dont have too hard of a time flirting and making the first move but women in the age range you're looking for usually likes to be a little bit more subtle. So if there is any fear of rejection there you're gonna have to tackle it, accept it and believe that those times of rejection are there to protect you from hooking up with the wrong one. Think of it like swinging at a baseball...there may be alot of strikes but eventually you'll knock that ball right out of the park. Good Luck.

Zenith

thanks...if you was younger then i might wuld....your not old.lol...just not young enough.but i guess i always thought a girl should go around acting single,like looking,stareing but its hard to see who is single unless i look at her hand but i guess i been looking for her to do something to give off a hint.but one thing for me is im 31 and i feel like a 20 year old up to 23 or 24 may say no cause of age and i guess you can say i want this so bad that i cant go for it.i also dont want one to hurt me after she acts like im the one and then she says yes to another guy.BUT BE HONEST.OK...WHAT ODDS DO I HAVE OF GETTING A 20 TO 24 YEAR OLD TO REALLY WANT ME TO DATE.?...NOT MEANING JUST FUN,IM MEANING TO LOOK FORWARD WITH FOR MAYBE A FUTURE TOGETHER.im saying the age like i am cause i dont think ill find a girl with no kids over that age unless she isnt pretty at all or is sorry..you know what i mean.but i will take a girl with a kid but not more than one cause i would like to have one of my own and i dont want more than 2 to care for cause thats a job nd i dont even have any,but i know its a job.but thanks for your output....i am the worlds worst at the approaching part and i even prayed over this.lol...but i have.i always been this way at first but warm up later but as far as walking up to one,i get a bad feeling everytime and dont,.and when i leave from where i was,i am very hurt at myself.but ill go before i email you to death...later.bye

Good luck and best wishes Derrell. I hope you find what you are looking for!!