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Ok, I really need your honest opinions about my problem. See my problem isnt that Im lonely or desprate to find a guy, my problem is that I have too many! Now I know alot of u dont see this as a problem, but it is. This one guy I met online (not here), and things seem to be going well between us, We like the same shows, can talk for hours, both are very family oriented........but sometimes I wonder if things are going too fast....he has already started talking about spending the rest of our lives together, and its only been 2 weeks! Then my friend wants to set me up wit her friend who is apparently well off financially, tall, and very caring. And then there is this other gu who I have had a crush on for a long time. What do I do?

Oh yeah, and my ex bf wants to get back with me

You are a very attractive young lady and I am pretty sure a lot of men on this site would like to hook up with you. Just be honest and make it clear that you want to be friends with them and get to know them better first before going into more serious relationship. That would make your life simlier and less stressful.

Awww thanx sweetie......I thought I was making it pretty clear, but I think u r right.....I need to make it really obvious.

See my post on your other thread in the other forums. I think you can benefit from it.

*LoveGirl3* Well, i feel your confusion belive me Girl! HA...HA!!! No seriuosly, you must follow that feeling you get in your stomach. Not just the feeling in your heart!!! I've been conversing with some one who lives in Canada. And me in Cali!! WE've been doing tis for 10mths now. Now this part will blow you away probably throw you abit as it does most people who know this. I am 56yrs old and he is 19yrs old. I thought at first i was just being desperate. And we did move very fast at first. We have so much in common in our lives. And think so much alike. And Luv totally with a true heart. And both have only been treated like shit all our lives. Because of being so soft hearted and caring. We split for about a month due too me and my deepest insecurities. I was the first one too contact him again. After being out here on the internet. Which really has sucked by the way. Only so much pain and so many lies from so many stupid guys who think only with their (you know what!!) My family tried too hook me up with just plain losers... I realized who i wanted too spend too spend the rest of my life with. Our realationship is totaly out of the normal for sure. We are planning too meet this Spring he will be coming here too visit me. Then only will i truely know this will be for real. This person is the most mature person i ever have meet at his age. As i am admitting i can be abit inmature most of the time. Just the way i grew up without a Dad around me. And he can put me right in my place. It's hella funny really. We both laugh about it constantly. Now if this guy you are talking too on the Internet is making you feel uncomfortable. Then this probably isn't the guy for you. Your still young. Remember there's no law saying when you have too settle down with someone. Live your life too the fullest first!! It's cool your friends want too hook you up. But it's really up to you who you wana kick it with, Girl!! I don't know if i have helped you any or not. But hope i have!!!! *Amber*

2 week Boy....whoooaaaaa Nelly...but if the convo is smooth and he doesn't start getting too clingy (how far away?)

Go on the date..tall and caring is promising, right? Money has nothing to do with anything.....but it doesn't hurt.

There's a reason why they call it a "crush"

Ex-Boyfriend - c'mon

Listen to what your heart tells you. If it feels right, it probably is. If you seem to be getting along well with the guy you met online, I say go with it. Just talk to him about your concerns. I am sure he will understand. Tell him you would like to take things a little slower.

Look you're 19yrs for God-sakes! My word of advice. What's the rush? Go out, have fun. Find out who they really are, and make your decision. Just do one thing . . . let each one of them know that you're dating other dudes, and they're not exclusive. Young dudes tend to play games, that's the last thing you need.

Good-Luck

Dilemmas dilemmas.

How seriously is he talking about long term? I'm an optimist...and my sole purpose in dating, is long term, so after 2 weeks, I may make "long term plans" in the sense...if there is something 4 or 5 months down the road that I need a date for...I'll invite her. It's the realization that it's not carved in stone...so if things happen...I fly solo...no problem. But I guess...if he's actually talking that long term...that's kinda...well, I think some people that are online have never really dated before, so they come in with different expectations...that's something you gotta think about.

Go with the crush! "Financially stable" meh! If there are no sparks there...go for the crush.

live it up!!!

HEY DONT WORRY SONNER O LAQTER YOU FIND A GUY THAT WOULD LOVE YOU ABND MAYBE IT COULD BE ME

Do what I do, play the field. Youre on here to date right? So date, but I would keep that guy you have a crush on very close. And if he asks you out when you have a date with another guy, you should break the date and date your crush.

That guy that is talking about spending the rest of your lives together....well, ive heard that line before LOTS of time. I do believe guys say that to keep you strung along...so listen, but dont take too much heed to his words, guys are like that.

I would definetly see what your friend has lined up for you too. Just remember, guys are dogs! They just are, girls are sweet and it seems LOTS of times when we go out with more than one guy, we tend to feel like hussys or whatever....but actually guys do it all the time and they dont, they feel like...look at me!...im a guys, guy.

One piece of BIG advice, dont sleep around!! Keep that at a distance for as looooooong as you possibly can. Once they get you, the mystery is over and alot of times (not all the time) they move on. What I do, is give them different levels of pleasure. Ill start off slow, maybe not even kiss him on the first date, but i will the second, especially if hes nice to me and we hit it off and then i go from there.....i hope this helps, but i just love that i have guys coming out of my ears..i have to make up index cards to keep them all straight!
Good luck, CC2

well the right thing to do is follow your heart, it will make you happier in the long run, your a buitiful woman whoever the guy is is very lucky good luck

You have to go with your heart. It wont fail you

Well that's something only you can decide for yourself however, you say you've liked someone for the longest time? If that is so then how well do you and him get along? Do you guys have some things similar to one another? Your likes and dislikes? Could you see yourself being around him or being with him in that way at all?

About the guy you met offline, I know sometimes those type of relationships do work out so yours might but talking about marriage after only a couple of weeks is a little too fast, let him know to slow things down a bit that way you two could spend many days getting to know one another's quirks and what not, make sure he is really right for you.

And about your ex, before making that decision think about what it was like when you two were going out. How well or bad did he treat you, did you enjoy the time you two spent with one another, does he get along with your family and friends, what was the reason you two broke up, things like that cause if you two broke up for a good reason other than you two wanted to try other things than maybe it is worth it but just think about those. Good luck on everything.