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I have alot of male friends. They are ok with it, I don't believe any of them get insulted by the term. Relationships always start out as friends then work up from there. If you have the understanding its only friends then how can someone get unpset?

Well unless we are talking about freinds with benifits. Then maybe they would get a bit upset.

Why not

Of course they can.. I have more male platonic friends then I have girl friends. Much more fun to go out for dinner, shoot some pool, go to football games and drink with then girl friends. They check out the available females and I do the same with the males. So yep.. opposite sex friends are a good thing.

LOL of course men and women can be friends. Just plain stupid to think they can't. Men who are insulted by being called a friend would have too many issues for me to want them for a friend.

I think what the first poster was saying, is that the term "friend" CAN mean a line has been drawn that the other person cannot cross. As in "let's just friends".

That can mean disapproval, which can hurt some people's ego.
...Believe it or not.

I agree. I have alot of female friends now. That didn't used to be the case. It had to be an intimate sexual relationship not friendship. But now I relate to alot of women that I won't go to bed with. I might think about it, but wouldn't take the risk of jeopardizing a friendship because of a momentary flash in the pants. There is alot more to a relationship than sex. Personally I prefer intimacy like holding hands, hugging, etc., or a good conversation over coffee. Sex for guys seems to be a difficult thing to control. At least it was for me. I even used to think that sex was the best way I could show love. Actually it was the only way. When younger I didn't know how to talk due to a rigid upbring. Had to teach myself. Anyway this is my two cents.

I think I need a smaller picture.

I guess I am not good looking enough or sexy enough to have as a friend for a guy. If I dont have sex with them they dont want anything to do with me or call me a fat A** b****,, or a s**t or something. but IF I do have sex with them I am called them names. Thats why I havent gone out in over 2 years now. Thast why I hate joining dating services & dont know why I have joined this one.

Look at me, I am a older women, and I am not good looking, but I have many male friends. You maybe picking the wrong guys. Anyone who will call you names isn't worth knowing.

Mary

Your picture is fine. At lease you can see your face.

Mary

Thank you Mary that was sweet of you toi say. Your pic is just fine as well. Not too big noty too little.

I totally believe men and women can just be friends. I have several friends, female type, which we are honestly just friends. One of whom is blonde, and gorgeous by all measures. But neither of us have anything in common as far as relationships go. Much like my soon to be ex-wife, We were friends a long time before we started dating. We are still friends, and we both realized that we would have just been better off as friends.

of course at least in our culture

I have guy as friends

No Men and woman cant be friends. One way or another, theres always sexual tension. Always!

I think men and women can be friends.I myself believe if when man and women meet and have fun going out"keep your sexual desires"at bay for a couple of weeks"yes thats right" then the bonding of the becoming friends is more likely to happen.

hmmm...I think yes, and I have more male friends than I do female...however a male friend of mine once told me that when a man meets a woman for the first time the first thing that they do is categorize them into either - doable or - not doable...

If you are doable (in their opinion) then sure they will be your friend (hoping they will get lucky at some point)...

If you are not doable (again in their opinion) then they won't invest too much time in the friendship (cuz they are not looking to get lucky)....

I've asked other male friends and can't seem to get a concensus....

Yes, men and women can be very good friends. I have a very good male friend that has a wife and 3 kids, and have known them for 12 years. He and I met first at work, and she is not worried about our friendship at all. There is a definition line you don't cross, and friends shouldn't f**k friends. There's "friends", and then there's "partners". Big difference. But that's just my opinion.

I have a friend who I think did put me in the " doable catagory." We've been friends for five years and when the opportunity presented itself he could not go all the way.I always wonder what was in his mind. I bothers me to this day.

"what" is this a joke