I think your talking about a very small percentage of women that go for the bad boy types and your lumping them into the "all women" category! If you want to change your chances of dating stop putting all women in general categories!!
Change your perspective about yourself. Be confident and believe in yourself. Find out what kind of woman you really want and be come choosy, don't play hard to get, that's ridiculous and playing games, don't become a
"cocky asshole." There is also no need to be
"real arrogant."Just be a man and take charge of the situations, no woman likes a nice guy that has not testicular fortitude!! Stop crying like a baby, take the future into your own hands and make it what you want.