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You already know the answer to that.
She's having her cake and eating it too...
It's not hard to see the truth, it's just wishful thinking when it's happening to us. We want to believe, so we can feel hope about the outcome.
Be strong, the minute you realize she's playing with your emotion, the better you will handle things.
Women don't like to see weakness in men...

If you want her back be strong, get happy and don't speak of love to her again, (for a while).
If she calls tell her about the thing you have changed for the better and things your looking forward to doing.
in other words... BE CONFIDENT!
At this time, the more you tell her you love her and show neediness the more she knows she got you for sure, the least she'll need to court you.
Be subtle and confident and show less interest in how she feel about you.

Body language means allot too... relax, lean back and let the confidence flow, remember you already had her once so you can get her again.

I also found this on the internet:

Are you still smarting over a recent breakup in which you were the one who got dumped? Not only is your self-esteem probably damaged, but if you still want your ex in your life you most likely are heartbroken.

However, there is good news for the broken hearted out there if you take the time to read the following seven ways that will teach you how to get your ex back if they dumped you.

Give them time to think

After your ex has some time to think past the initial emotions of the breakup they may start to miss you.
However, they will never miss you if you are still in their life so make sure you give them plenty of space.

Reevaluate the initial attraction

Take some time while you are avoiding your ex to figure out what the initial spark was that started your relationship. Once you figure this out it is up to you to make sure that you play up that part of your personality again so they notice!

Talk to the family

If the family likes you then they will continue to talk about you to your ex. If your ex keeps hearing about you they may begin to question their decision to leave you since their family obviously does not agree!

Style it up again

It is normal to get a bit lazy in a relationship, but as a single guy or gal you need to draw attention back to yourself. This means it is time for a new haircut or wardrobe; whatever you think it will take to make you unforgettable again.

Flirt mildly

Most people never expect to see their ex move on first, so give them the shock of the year and start flirting with new people. Take yourself off the backup list and you will be surprised to see how quickly they take note of you again.

Stay composed

It may be hard, but no matter how broken hearted you feel keep your head up. Overly emotional people look desperate and needy which are two traits that will never help you get your ex back. So hold your head up high even if it hurts. As a reward you can indulge yourself on chocolate when you get home!

Be patient!

Even with the best tricks you are not going to reach reconciliation over night, so give it some time.
If you follow the tricks they will come back to you and without begging and self-demeaning behavior on your part.