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You know I'd have to say that the reason most people are so dishonest is because this world is soooooo judgmental. If people were not put into categories and judged by society for who they were, where they came from, what their grandmother did 80 years ago, etc I really do think that you would see more honesty.

I'm not saying that I believe in being dishonest, merely adding my 2 cents.

-Erin

I too have found this behavior to very disheartening. Not being honest up front seems to me to just be prolonging the inevitable and also very unfair and an inconsiderate waste of time for the other person.

A singles member e-mailed me, then we chatted on IM and he wanted to meet. I said ok, let me get offline and call me and we can talk about meeting. He called, we talked for about 15-20 minutes, then he said, could I call you back? And I said well, yeah. He said he had to go to the store. I said, oh, ok, whatcha gotta get? He said dog food. I never heard back from him. I am pretty sure there was something I said that changed his mind about wanting to meet. But rather than the rude exit excuse, I would have very much respected a "well, I'm really sorry to have to tell you this, but your not really, exactly what I'm looking for at this time." Hopefully he will get treated the same by another and maybe learn something from it. The good old "Do unto others as you would have them to unto you" could have definitely been applied.

kujhawkrulz, agreed.

I agree that it was disrespectful. should have just said your not what he was looking for.

You have to be completely honest with youself before you can begin to be truly honest with any one else. Some people still have a hard time with that.

Yes, I agree. I don't feel comfortable telling people why i don't work, cause i am afraid that a guy here will judge me. So, I sometimes try to be careful what I say.