Yes, there are women here in Michigan who desire "true love". Unfortunately, there seems to be more "players" than real people. On some sites that I have posted on, the "men" don't even bother to read the profiles and I can't tell you how many times I've had to tell them that they don't match what I'm interested in, which begs the question, "why bother posting a profile if no one bothers to take the time to read it" before contacting someone.
I'm into books big time, spelling and being able to construct sentences properly are extremely important to me (as this is how I make a living). I understand the concept of IMs, but you will never see me "abbreviate" on an IM. Being a secretary for 30 years it is difficult for me to abbreviate. Also, the fact that I have four cats, who are my "kids" seems to be a deterent. I have had these cats before I met this last boyfriend, whom I wasted three years on (not to mention buying a condo together which he let go to foreclosure because, "I'm sorry, I tired but I just can't live with cats"). I told him from the beginning that I will NEVER get rid of my cats just to have a man in my life, but I guess he thought I was lying. He told me he never really had an appreciation for cats until he met me, but waited six months AFTER signing a mortgage to inform me that he was allergic, yet he was able to spend almost every single night sleeping on the couch that my cats sat and slept on, and was able to breath just fine. He NEVER did a lick of housework because, "it's your cats that are making the mess with all their hair".
If a person is "ALLERGIC" and/or doesn't like someone's pets, why in the world would you bother "dating" and/or "living" with someone with pets and then, after the fact, expect them to get rid of their animals??????
I am a hard worker, have worked 2-3 jobs for many, many years, I help my parents every time they need without question, I don't "expect" a Man to take care of me and I certainly don't try to change ANY man or expect him to give up the things HE loves and enjoys doing just because I have no interest - yet, that is what I get. I tell people right up front what I like, expect and want in this life.
Right now, I was laid off from my full-time job that I've had with the company for 25 years, but am still working at my part-time job I've had since last year, along with doing my home-based business, and am planning on going back to school to finish my 2 year degree. I am greatful for my cats, my parents and my friends, so I try to be relatively happy with my situation. My words to you are, DON'T give up, take care of yourself, continue to do the things that bring you pleasure and the rest will fall into place sooner or later. Life has a way of working out, just don't know when. It's good to compromise, but not good to give up those things you enjoy hoping to make the other person want you. Loosing yourself, I have found, is not an option, at least for me.