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I really wish I knew...because if I did I wouldn't need this site..but yep here I am point taken and givin..it is hard but gals for once just be youreself don't pretend or lie and mabey things would go better...or better yet mabey realize some guys have lots of bagage from gals who where not nice.and ladys we are sorry to say this but there are a lot of jerks out there....But I am not one of them...-J

Hello Fellow Minnesotians:

Working through our issues with a relationship is what has to be dealt with 1st.
Its easy to find the ones that are jerks (Male or Female).
But to find the perfect match....well that takes time. When its our time we will find that one that is absolutely a dream.
Spending time getting to know each other before just jumping into bed... is a way to know who you are dealing with.
I have found all those men out there that want to jump into bed for a quick roll in the hay. They are sorely disappointed when I look at them and say ... "Um Excuse me... I am a Lady. Ladies do not behave that way."
Too Many out there think that its all about SEX well I beg to differ, communication is where its at.

this one's for you CTECH:

Hey folks long time since anyone has posted on this issue and since I am now single again......Hey Deeper no comment....oh wait thats right he left the site. Anyway, since I was looking for some advice/clarity/whatever in my current situation. I thought I would check on previous posts and see how everyone else was doing. Melindra brings up a good point here on "Trust", "blame" "benefit of the doubt" and taking the time to CALMLY and respectfully explore fully the other persons feelings".
example: (it took me a couple of weeks to figure this one out but I did and I feel much better now). My ex was upset with me because her 6 yo son and I had a bad day, she forgot that at the end of the day I willingly apologized to him without persuasion. She is so into "her son is her life" (I'm not saying that's wrong) that instead of focusing the reasons she was upset over that incident, instead of remembering that I had apologized, she shut me out. she is using her son as a shield against ANYONE getting close to her. she told me she spoils him. she told me I could never say it to her but that she knew she did.
She is "blackmailing" her son into loving her so that the two of them can live safely in their own world and not have to worry about the love of anyone else.
I can't and won't live like that does that make me evil or wrong. I don't see how.

No offence cuz I am truly curious, but if you are happily married, why are you on connectingsingles.com?

Question to Meilandra's latest ...

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not to defend her because she can defend herself quite well. But, as I was on CS while I was in my last relationship and will continue to do so in future relationships.
Connecting singles has been a great place to stay connected with friends and get to know new people. you don't have to be looking for a "good time" to be on this site.

Just askin... I'm new to this online chat/dating thing, never went online before I was married or while I was. Thanks for the reply though!

I have no idea. I"m seriously wondering the same thing. I thought I had the perfect guy until about a week ago.

Do not give up on hope, I still say, " some day my ship will come in"

Well a picture might help! I mean in your case not mine....

Maybe cuz there are so many different types of people.
Its like matching a pair stones to make jewelry. You try to get as close to perfect but you enjoy the stone for its flaws and beauty.

I think the reason would be that the person perfect for you may not be perfect for someone else. Were all individuals with different expentations of what we want and need.

I agree!

Yeah I did. That's why I clicked on it. lol

Hey at least there is one other person...... I thought I was all alone for awhile

selfishness,trying to show the other is not a good parent.Poor communication and negative third party interference.