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If I was, am I using the right bait? Someone said that Texas small worms were the best.

HEY ALL, as promised I'm swinging back in for a visit. Tiger....FISHING???? WHEN AND WHERE.... I like most unlucky SOB'S in this state and many other's have been laid off and am going to enjoy some quality time on the lakes..........well on the shores fishing. ~K~, did I miss the swimming opener????? DAMN.
O.K. now for the shocker.....DogMal (or is it dogmai) and others you and I are now within reach of one another at least 2/3's of the week. I am spending alot of my time at my fiancee's in St. Michael. WE SHOULD GET TOGETHER.

Tiger thanks for the good thoughts. I must by psycic or something I needed advice tonight and knew I could come to my friends and get it.

Anyone feel like giving a guy some advice on dealing with a very difficult thirteen y.o. (If your up for it let me know and I'll fill ya in) basically its a Powerplay/RESPECT and understanding problem..........

Talk later gang. I'll try and check in more often

Curly

Hey Jim, I'm cutting right to it, Best advice. My assumption is s/he's not yours, so here goes. 9 to 17 years old will be the worst of it. A 13 year old girl is PMS on steroids X2. If this is a boy it's times 3 and won't get any better until he's out of the house. Don't expect respect and don't expect either of you to understand the other. It's something that will have to come with time. Be as friendly as possible and take all insults and disrespect with a couple aspirin. S/he's not disrespecting you s/he's attacking who you represent. Lead by example, never asking for anything you haven't done already yourself....and be prepared to do it all by yourself anyway. Never be the disciplinarian. It's mom's monster, she created it before you got there, let her control it. You support mom through comfort, during her frustrated moments. Don't offer advice, but you can offer choices. When the child does get disciplined, don't gloat or snicker, or make faces. If you do, just imagine poking a stick into a bee hive and shaking it like a dinner bell. Best to just hold a newspaper up so s/he can't see you. If you want something more specific, write to me at my offsite email. I raised another womans son for 20 years and had 7 of my own.

Best of luck.

I'm with the Tiger... don't know what you're dealing with, yours or another. I've raised two girls, same mother once removed by divorce and they both went f-en crazy about age 14. There was nothing I could do from a distance but send cards occasionally simply saying "I love... care about you" and wait it out. We get along now and they know that I've been there for them all along.

As for the child of your woman... kind of between a rock and a hard place if she's expecting you to intervene... kids of any age have a way of breaking up relationships if they don't like you.

Best advice I could give if it isn't your kid is to seek counseling with the mother on how to deal with it, so you're both on the same sheet of music.

Blessings and peace,
Jack


"When you run out of red, use blue!" Pablo Picasso, on flexibility and imagination

Ok, seems everyone is gone again. K is missing Kkitty2 has disappeared again. Where the hell is everyone?

Really! I was wondering this too. Makes me feel like I should have plans and be out having fun too, and that makes me feel more lonely than I already was.

Maybe I need to give up on the Minn. forums and chat with people all over. It's way too quiet here...

Not sure why meeting friends or more is so hard in Minnesota, but it really is...

If anyone out there is looking for a friend...PLEASE Email me!!! (cuz I probably won't be checking the MN forums much)

Well, still no one hanging around. Nothing new here.

Yep, just a dusty old room. I'm surprised it even exists any more.

Dusty is an understatement WTF... if this were a nightclub it would be out of business

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"I'm not sayin' anything; I'm just sayin'... " ~Bohemianjack, on communication

Well this is one room several of us had agreed to keep alive no matter what. And it works too. See?


WHERE THE HELL IS EVERYONE?

well who the hell is this sure shot guy.....looks kinda like a guy who used to be on this site a long time ago in a galaxy far, far away.....

Hope everything is O.K. guys..... hey if those of you who know my messenger address would like some tickets to the Rennaissance Fest. get in touch with me. I have a few left over. And I would love seeing you all again.

BTW like I said earlier. contact me thru messenger. I RARELY check this site.

Good to see you Curly. I just got back from the Jedi Temple.

I'll get in touch with you about the Ren Fair.

Missed the Ren Fair. Oh well, there is always next year.

So is anyone still here?

I feel the same way!! I also think that people are expecting way to much. Being overweight, but beatiful, I've had few guys even want to be penpals. They seem to want a Barbie doll girl. Get real guys...We all have our flaws, me & you included.