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k_4beautiful
North Branch, Minnesota USA
Posted: Jul 14, 2008, 2:59 PM CST

Okay...here is my question...why can't men just ever make up their minds and stick to the decision?!?!?! confused sigh I just don't get it!!! frustrated You are with someone you love and says they love you but they can't seem to stay.
This is a really long story...some of you know all the details but just in general I was wondering what people think. If a man loves a woman and says they want to be with them, but then leaves for whatever reason, yet KEEPS coming back time after time! dunno It makes no sense to me. If you love someone as much as you claim; even if you are scared of change or hurting others...why would you still stay in the other situation and try to keep coming back to the one you really obviously want and need?!?!? frustrated
Sorry if this is confusing people....let me try and elaborate... Say you are in a relationship that you are unhappy in, yet you also have a relationship w/someone who makes you smile, laugh, and love to have fun. You have tried to leave the situation at home you are unhappy about, but didn't try too hard since all heck broke loose so you stayed and tried to be happy w/out your other great relationship. After a few months you come back to that wonderful person you say you love and can't live w/out....then when crud hits the fan again you leave the great woman and try to stick it out...a few months later you come back AGAIN!!! sigh dunno frustrated You can't seem to make the commitment for a number of reasons and you KNOW you can't have your cake and eat it too...but yet you still keep trying since you are too scared of changing or something. You know things will hit the fan eventually again and it will blow everyone's lives out of the water like it has before and so instead of being honest and dealing w/it...why do you wait?!?!? D'oh!
Does anyone know what I mean??? Does anyone have any ideas??? Sorry if I didn't explain this well enough...it is a very long crappy story. I was just wondering what other people thought about this...
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~K~ purple_heart
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DogMaI
Sartell, Minnesota USA
Posted: Jul 14, 2008, 5:39 PM CST
From what I can gather from what you have written the person is probably doing it because he can. He is saying that he is going back because "all heck broke loose" but in reality he is going to you when "all heck breaks loose" and returning when the storm calms down. It pretty much sounds to me like he is using you as a way to get out of having to deal with the real problems of the other relationship. To me the only way to really end the current cycle is to walk away until the other person can 100% commit to you. dunno

Sorry if it seems a little harsh or short sited.... just going off the info provided... I hope things get better for youhug bouquet of flowers

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curly1969
cottage grove , Minnesota USA
Posted: Jul 16, 2008, 10:48 AM CST
~K~

This is freaky......Once again that dog guy and I seem to agree on a posting AGAIN.

Let me elaborate and hopefully assist you (btw the payment for this counseling session is a day in the pool

oh man, sorry ~K~ I had a long nite and am literally falling asleep at the keyboard. easy way to solve this. if you need someone to talk to thats gone through the sam thing call me (I know you should still have my number

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steffielind
Forest Lake, Minnesota USA
Posted: Jul 16, 2008, 12:16 PM CST
k_4beautiful wrote:
Okay...here is my question...why can't men just ever make up their minds and stick to the decision?!?!?! I just don't get it!!! You are with someone you love and says they love you but they can't seem to stay.
This is a really long story...some of you know all the details but just in general I was wondering what people think. If a man loves a woman and says they want to be with them, but then leaves for whatever reason, yet KEEPS coming back time after time! It makes no sense to me. If you love someone as much as you claim; even if you are scared of change or hurting others...why would you still stay in the other situation and try to keep coming back to the one you really obviously want and need?!?!?
Sorry if this is confusing people....let me try and elaborate... Say you are in a relationship that you are unhappy in, yet you also have a relationship w/someone who makes you smile, laugh, and love to have fun. You have tried to leave the situation at home you are unhappy about, but didn't try too hard since all heck broke loose so you stayed and tried to be happy w/out your other great relationship. After a few months you come back to that wonderful person you say you love and can't live w/out....then when crud hits the fan again you leave the great woman and try to stick it out...a few months later you come back AGAIN!!! You can't seem to make the commitment for a number of reasons and you KNOW you can't have your cake and eat it too...but yet you still keep trying since you are too scared of changing or something. You know things will hit the fan eventually again and it will blow everyone's lives out of the water like it has before and so instead of being honest and dealing w/it...why do you wait?!?!?
Does anyone know what I mean??? Does anyone have any ideas??? Sorry if I didn't explain this well enough...it is a very long crappy story. I was just wondering what other people thought about this...

~K~


Been there, done that and the best thing you can do is walk away with your dignity and self respect. Now I dont know you but, I can tell you that if he loved you at all he wouldnt leave you and come back and leave and come back and so forth. If he loved you he would stay. Harsh truth, and only my opinion....I hope it gives some insite for you. bouquet of flowers
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aboveaveragejoe
minneapolis, Minnesota USA
Posted: Aug 13, 2008, 1:10 PM CST
Oh, and not every man is like that. lol dancing banana
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steffielind
Forest Lake, Minnesota USA
Posted: Aug 13, 2008, 1:24 PM CST
aboveaveragejoe wrote:
Oh, and not every man is like that. lol


Thats what they all say ;)

LOL
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aboveaveragejoe
minneapolis, Minnesota USA
Posted: Aug 13, 2008, 2:04 PM CST
I will refrain from making a very sarcastic comment and leave you with this:

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k_4beautiful
North Branch, Minnesota USA
Posted: Aug 14, 2008, 6:44 PM CST
aboveaveragejoe wrote:
Oh, and not every man is like that. lol

I'm glad to hear that, but Steph is kinda right...they do all say that. lol sticking out tongue I wasn't trying to sound like a scorned man-hater in this post; hope that isn't the way it came out. D'oh! Glad to have another guy in here. Trust me...if you like sarcasm...it IS my middle name! haha rolling on the floor laughing
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aboveaveragejoe
minneapolis, Minnesota USA
Posted: Aug 14, 2008, 9:19 PM CST
Oh am I am all about sarcasm
I pride myself in it lol
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whitetiger777us
shakopee, Minnesota USA
Posted: Aug 15, 2008, 12:39 PM CST
k_4beautiful wrote:
sarcasm...it IS my middle name! haha
~K~


I can think of a few more if you need some.sticking out tongue
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k_4beautiful
North Branch, Minnesota USA
Posted: Aug 17, 2008, 2:53 PM CST
whitetiger777us wrote:
I can think of a few more if you need some.

Hahaha Whitetiger!! rolling on the floor laughingsticking out tongue Bring it on!!! sticking out tongue devil What are my other middle names hun?!?! confused Let's see....cute, nice, amazing(especially in the sack)lol wink, sweet, loving, ect....I could go on for hours! lmao rolling on the floor laughing Okay....now, don't start thinking I just think I'm better than all of you....hell, my self esteem is so damn low I don't even think sewer rats could find it! sticking out tongue Oh yeah, my mind is in the gutter often though too! haha! devil Wow...I'm on a roll today! So...how was your weekend?? Mine was actually pretty decent. dancing
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