Hello Rich!
I really can't answer your question as like so many have always met the person who wasn't right for me and was taken advantage of so to speak because I am a laid back individual accepting people for who they are. Last relationship I had its a wonder I had the few friends I did when it ended as he didn't like any of my friends yet we spent much time with his countless number of friends whether I liked them or not. At one time in my life I was a decent judge of character of people but now I don't know...maybe being older certain things do not matter as much.
We all want acceptance and some times during the extreme to get it lose sight of what really matters.

Good luck here on CS..am sure you will make friends and it will help you pass the time to fill the void till you meet someone special.