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Hi all,

An e-mail discussion recently ended suddenly, without any indication as to any objections, etc., but I am sure I know why.

I have been steadily employed for most of my life and still am. I support myself, my ex-to-be and still manage to have a little fun. Money's a bit tight (that is changing slowly), but I'm a capable, independent guy. And my future looks generally hopeful.

I am well-rounded, enjoying a wide variety of the arts, food & wine, museums, sports, and outdoor activities. I can carry an intelligent conversation about a variety of subjects... I think you get the picture.

But I commute by bicycle at least 95% of the time. I have no car. I live conveniently close to work, restaurants and shopping, and can walk or bike to just about everything I do. I chose this path quite intentionally:
<> Improve my character, fitness & health
<> Contribute to improving air quality in my city

This seems to be a conversation-killer (even when including the motives). I understand the perception of independence very well. I don't have to have a car to be independent. In fact, I'm not certain it's such a great idea to be so dependent on a car.

While I am not looking to re-marry tomorrow, I would like to meet a new lady friend. But how do I demonstrate that I deserve a fair chance? I'm pretty sure there are women in Charlotte who consider a resourceful, conscientious guy to be a good thing.

I don't need the ol' "there's someone out there for you" speech. I just want a fair chance at making a new friend - to be able to present myself as the resourceful guy.