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Geez, last relationship I had, I paid all the bills, refused to get married and didn't want anymore kids. I spelled it out, upfront. Two years later I was a wench for not wanting kids. I didn't change, he did.

10 years later, I still don't want to get married, don't want kids, and the new one pays the bills for now. He wants to get married, while I say no. He thinks I'm the coolest thing since sliced bread. He won't let me pay bills and I will never wear a ring, much less have a kid, or take his name.

If I get ready to leave, I like to travel light. No baggage for me, thanks.

Same story exactly with me!

Personally, I would prefer that I live with my significant other for a little while (maybe 6 months to year tops) because it helps to see their home life. Sure, it's completely possible without doing such, but living together breaks down one of those barriers that comes up in relationships with my generation. Unfortunately, so many of my peers are very pragmatic and detached from humanity as a society, but that's for another post. If things are still going well after a few months, it's time to start shopping, and head forward. Now, this doesn't say that sleeping in the same bed comes with living together. Some couples would prefer it, some would prefer separate bedrooms until matrimony, but for me, it's just the simple statement of living together lets me see how they handle their home life/responsibilities.

Sorry if this came out a bit weird, my brain's kinda scattered today :)

I was first married in 1962. You are so right about the way things changed. As I remember right, it actually started in the 60's. Another thing that started big time back then was LSD and many different kinds of uppers and downers (as they called them).Another big one was psycology. They started infuencing alot of people. They were actually brainwashing, especially young women. Then there was the womens lib. Oh yes, equal pay for equal work. Not many men were out of work back then but soon were and some probably decided why not let her support me and I'll stay with the kids. Women started getting too independant and I think it was a womans downfall when she went to work, because she started throwing it in the mans face--"I can make my own money and buy what I want" They lost respect for their husbands and the male ego was really shot down. The man is suppose to be the head of the house. Not the woman. It's in the Bible, but now even the Bible is getting doubted and God is left out of most everything. Americans--we will pay and pay dearly. It's already started, can't you see it? Better read and study the Bible. If we are ashamed of the Gospel of Christ and deny Him who died for our sins and paid the price we could never pay. He says, He will deny us before His father. Read and study. Three minutes after someone goes to hell, they will be sorry and there will be no more chances. We have now to get ready. Don't procrastinate.

i was married wish i hadnt we lived together things were gr8 as soon as i signed the papers he became violent and possesive and now i would never put myself there again so living together in my eyes the better option.
U still love the same and care the same and each ones respects the other is there own person

With all the hate and dis likes on this post wow its like no one will ever love again .. Id hope thats not true .

Iv been single for 25 yrs . but its not for any of the hate reasons iv read here.. I stayes single as a single dad raising 2 kids . now there grown and it time for my life to begain.
If I had any the worrys that you all bring out id have to just pack and run..lol

Im retired at 51. from a great job . saved money well every thing is paid for but the house , # yrs to go and I did this for the hope of starting a marriage with out the worrys of money proublems . but reading the negs here it makes a man want to just stay single and not to belive that the word of love is alive .. is this true . ?

I feel like some of the proublems iv read here just might be brought on by them and not always the other persons fault. You know the old saying ... her side ,, his side and then the truth .

Im sure the future for most is going to be a bright one. and not as gloom and doom as some make it .. wow if its that bad then why are they on here looking again.. after 3 bad marriages as one has I dont belive id be looking again .. are at least be on a singles site looking .. i hope the ones I meet on here arnt as bad as this subject is being to made out .. well I guess Ill try and see.. the lord willing and me trying .. it might work out ..lol

My reply is simple here "Try it before you buy it" That in no way means i do not beleive in marriage.. I do but if you can't live with someone a marriage will never last...This way it can be alot cheaper in the long run..