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Hello,

I don't think age matters, if the person is mature enough, age will not be an issue, but if your role in the relation is babysitting, then that is a different story.
I dated older women before and it did work just fine until we broke up, was not age that caused this relation to end.
But the real question that I might ask is how did you guys feel in public? Because lets face it, our surroundings sometimes dictate what we do, might be right or wrong, that is when the age might be a bit of discomfort.
Personally I don’t think age is a reason to make a relation not being compatible, it is more like the person and the difference of interests that makes it not fitting right

Thanks for your response. We were fine in public, sex was awesome and he even seemed like he had his "crap" together in the beginning. As time went on he began to be very contolling and was horrible at communication. I just thought that maybe it was his age..

Hey it's me again

How was he controlling? I mean type don't wear this! Don’t do that? Do this instead!! Or was he mind controlling/game playing type a guy?

I’m not trying to be noisy, but where did you guys meet? And how long you guys had been together?


I’ve been I n a relation before where my ex, had drinking problem, but she did not think so. I mean the thing has a beer on eh night stand and first thing when she wakes up in the morning, she put it down into her in not time. She did not want help, because she said nothing was wrong, and no help is needed. So we end up breaking up.

Hi.
I do think you're putting too much emphasis on his age. We all seem to try to "categorize" people into boxes to give us a relative guidline for future reference. Nothing at all wrong with that if you don't mind the possability of passing-up that fella that might be a fantastic match for you. I'm sure you know that every man is different, they only seem the same. Sometimes I feel the same way about women. I believe that's because we train ourselves to see certain quirks about people that we're dating, and try to anticipate what they may, or may not do, in order to protect our own hearts.

But I digress... back to the issue...

I've known men 22 years older than their significant other who've been married for years... I've known women who're 18 years older than their husbands, and have never felt more complete <-- their words, not mine. likewise, I've known mates who were the same age, and couldn't make a go of it. Doesn't have to do with age.. I think it has to do with the person. Either they're a match.. or they aren't.
Unfortunately sometimes it just takes time to get to the bottom of who they are, and to see the real them.

Typically, guys don't even know themselves until they've reached their 50's, and that, only after they've gone through that 2nd boyhood... midlife crisis thing... But sometimes you find em as confident and secure as a mature man as young as 22... keep looking, but keep your mind open.

Its depends on the persons,but there is a place where one such as I would feel like a child molester LOL

age is just a number, and choices have outcomes.

yes cherokemoon is right on,, but love is blind

i think it just depends on how compatible you are together, not so much the age difference. but i do think that it doe's play a part in the way you think, what you like & enjoy doing.

well, there are different point wich are to pay attention to i guess.

sorry for my misspellings, but i´m european and my written english still is bad.

if somebody is way younger it can causes problems if this two people have not the seem level in experiences.
for example,
often you can see like an 45 year old man somehow dates an 23 year old girl.
everybody will say...no problem...that works well and fine...
but if you just look and try to see how often this kind of couples grow old together, that nearly never being happened at all.

this kind of relationships are just for an limited time and not for ever. well, nothing have to be for ever, but this couples would not have the chance why that girl is to young. and how older somebody is so he gets more and more older looking and acting like much quicker.
when he is 54, she will be 33 when he is 65, she will be 44, she is in the best age and he will be just an old man.
but most of the time, the girls running quicker away why somewhen, when the big magic is gone, they see than, how old that man looks, they see what all he can not or want not anymore do and they have most of the time not many connection points what holds an relationship strong and good.

if an 30 year old man dates an 39 year old woman, than this is not much age difference. but if that seem man for example, never made children, was not married, had for nobody to care than the own butt and that is kind of hard for him, THAN he is to young.

the seem 30 year old could have had an family with children, working hard, caring for many things in life and others, being responsebel
for him and others..... than, he is not to young.

and the woman have to be looked to also.
if she is like an mom to a man and if she needs to have somebody she can care for like for children, than, the motiv why she will have that younger man, probably is not the best either.

some numbers of age difference are not bad or going hard, some going hard. it have to do with the unique people. nobody is like the other one.

but, what for 99% never works out is, when they have way more than 10 years difference. until 10 it works, more than 1o, hardly never.
and also it have to do with how old somebody is. girl or boy 19 and man or woman 30 do not work well. but 30 and 40 is more easy, why both alredy had some lifeexperiencesa nd being an bit more educated for life.

hope you can understand what i try to say.

but it do not mena that it never could work out. it is just in an big age different, that somebody have to go backwards again, or the other have to overjump life and learning steps. that si pretty much hard for the most people. if you are young, you NEED to make experiences and they are not comimg over night to you.