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I honestly dont understand why my image should have anything to do with who i am or what I look like thats like taking a book off the shelf and never turning a page you have no clue as to what this guy is or has to offer but to judge by the image pasted on the cover the other day I asked a girl out and the only response I recieved from her was eww. I mean cmon what does this person know about me that I don't ? seriously if thats the best woman can do is judge then to be honest why look for love when all you want is good looks ? if thats the case your not out for love you just want someone to stand by you that looks good who cares how they feel about you inside really right? I would like to get some opinions on this matter by some of the members on this site and be honest tell me if I am right and for the women that read this please do tell me what are you looking for in a guy? why do you chose looks over the real deal that comes from inside and not what a books cover has to show if thats the case should I even go on trying ? Is there any place in this world where A guy such as myself can go that a woman doesn't look at me for who I am on the outside but wants to just sit down and talk to me and see who I really am from the inside? well i'm going to leave this post up here see what kinda responses I get so be honest tell me what I am doing so wrong to get responses like eww thanks for taking the time to read and express your feelings on this matter!

Hey , Are you or have you ever been in the milatary ? Anyways , That was a rude responce you got for sure . It didnt seem to have any humor in it so I was a negitive thing . I thing there has to be an attraction for me personally . But I would never put anyone the messages me down ever .

I have the same problem as you do. What I think it is if you don't look like you at least take care of yourself then how are you supossed to be able to take care of a girl. Now if she saw you and you were dressed like a slob and you smelled and all that then i can see why she did that but if you were dressed like your picture i don't see wtf her problem was. I just think thats what it really is. I mean i've had 1,000's of friends that are girls and they all told me the same thing. Now granted they all told me that weight and looks have nothing to do with it. Its all about how you take care of yourself. If you proove to a girl that you can take care of yourself they will be like hmm maybe he can take care of me. you know?
Talk to ya all later.
Joe

im happy to see all of your comments however I am a very well taken care of person I take care of myself it's just they don't like my looks and have been told many times I'm honestly about to just forget trying and stay single things are to hard as it is in life to be knocked down by someone else I am a very clean person should see my place I get mad if someone drops a piece of paper outa there pocket and lets it lay lol I like to think that im a very clean cut guy all but my goatee well That dont go anywhere I have had it since i could grow a beard ahh well thats my thoughts maybe life would be easier if I just stop trying right ? I get along fine everyday just have a little bit of that thing called lonliness keeping me down no matter how many times I try to just hide it just sticks out there like a sore thumb and my friends notice it so I must be doing something wrong if they notice it plain as day but as i said my life seems to be alot easier going day by day staying alone when i don't try to find a girl i'm happy but when i do I get mean responses and it depresses me so what do ya think i'm considering doing besides just quit completely to hell with them what i say i Will just have to try and live life without it and if i keep going the rate i am now soon there will be no feelings for them right well I got to go im heading to the movies for the 4th time this week alone it will get better i hope talk soon thanks for the responses :)

I usually just come here and just read the different posts w/out replying to any. But this one really hit close and I had too. Anyone that is that shallow to respond the way they had isn't worth being with to begin with.

I personally suffer from severe depression and after my suicide attempt (over a woman..lol ...)I came to a conclusion. No woman or (in others cases man) is worth that kind of self destruction. There is nothing in life that will ever get me down to that low I was once at. Don't get me wrong, life isn't all laughter , I have days I am down , but never ever will someone get me down to that moment to where I once was.

My point is, don't let someone ever get you down like that. As long as you keep your heart true, then that special someone will come to you eventually. I have been single for like the past 2 or 3 yrs, and yeah I wish I had someone to share the nights with, but, I know when I do meet that person, it will be a moment in life I will never forget.

Yeah it gets frustrating , but, a little bit of pain in life is worth a lifetime of love with someone.

Ok, now I'll go back to reading posts and not be heard from for another few months.

There are women out there that don't look at the body but the heart and soul of a man. Believe me I understand. It works both ways. Most men won't give a heavy woman the time of day, let alone get to know the real you!! I suffer from the same prejudice that you are talking about.

Everyone wants a model... whether they are or not?

Not me I'm looking for someone honest and who will love me just the way I am!!! That doesn't mean I'm not working every day to improve myself but it would be nice to be loved for who I am...NOT what I look like.

Honey..do not let anyone, anyone..steal your joy..People are cruel by nature and if you find someone who is well mannered and polite..the females tend to call him a punk...they say they dont want a man to treat them bad right..but if that is so..why do they keep on going back to that same deranged man who beat the crap outta them and after spending time in jail for God knows what..they are back sleeping with dude and saying I know I know...it just pisses me off...I have gotten to the point in my life where the only man of my house is Jesus. I dont even let what is going on around me bother me and I enjoy meeting people online, that way, they dont have to come to my house and I dont have to get involved with the bullcrap and the lies. Sex on the other hand is only meant for people who are married as said in the bible..because for one thing it opens up "feelings"...that are only ever supposed to be exposed during a marriage. People need to get right because time isnt sitting around waiting for anyone and the mistakes you make today your justing building an account on your sorrows tomorrow..so just be blessed and make you a gratitude list of just little things to be happy for because there is someone out here much worse off than you..Peace

What am i looking for? You want me to be honest, huh?
Well what's on the inside is what is going to make the lasting impression. However, I would really like to see you without the hat and clean shaven. Stand tall and be proud/confident. I like to look at a man who is proud of who he is and doesn't hide behind things. Dress up a little and get my attention. Then, let me get to know you. I really want a man who is kind, caring, loving, a gentleman. I still like the old fashioned stuff. You know, treat me like a lady.
Let me ask you, don't you look at the women first to catch ur attention? Maybe it's not right but the first thing we see, whether we want to admit it or not, is the person's body type and how they carry themselves. It's that old first impressions stuff, again.
Don't get me wrong, I know it's what's inside that counts, but be realistic. People notice.