Tnpseudonym: well, honestly i'm starting to wonder if i should just pull myself off the market completly for a while. I don't want to but here's what i'm looking at:
i work any where from 12 to 60 hour weeks
i never know when i'll have a day off ('cept saturdays) or most of a week off.
i have a 9 year old and a 7 year old who i devote almost all of my free time to
i have no personal life aside from that, which means no friends
and i work and female dominated feild
it's been so long since i was out on the 'market' so to speek that i don't even know how to begin really, and now i have obligations i didn't have the last time i was single and the stipulations that go along with that not only are daunting to prospectives but to me also. I don't want a guy to think i expect him to make my priorities his, at the same time he HAS to understand that stability in his life is now a keen quality in a match for me.
i just don't know any more at this point. that above statement is usually enough to make a guy say 'we could just be friends'
It does sound like you have quite a plate-full. Speaking from my own experiences/decisions in life, when my two boys were that young I "made the decision" to put my life, so to speak, on the back burner. My main priority was raising my boys and devoting all my free time to them. I figured me finding someone else could wait until they got much older. They grow up too fast! LOL So that's what I done. It takes alot of self-sacrificing to withhold your personal needs. However, you might actually find someone that would completely understand your priorities and be willing to forego a relationship with you regardless. I wish you the best and happiness in all that you do.
Merky