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I really don't think it is that hard to find good men, as long as you're reasonable about what you're looking for. Will you find a guy with Brad Pitt's body, Tom Hanks' winning personality, Aaron Sorkin's wit, and Tom Cruise's bank account? Of course not! Such a person doesn't really exist except in Fantasyland. I'll never find a woman with Rachel McAdams' body, Mira Furlan's personality, Paula Paulstone's wit, and Nicole Kidman's back account either, so we're even. :-)

A better question is, "What kind of man do you want?" Think about it carefully. What is most important to you? Figure out what your Must-Haves, Want-to-Haves, and It-Would-Be-Nice-Ifs are. Remember, there are no wrong answers: maybe you want a guy with a rock-hard body; maybe you want a guy with a high income (or earning potential); maybe you want a guy who's good with kids. Then look for men with that quality, and be forgiving if other areas are lacking.

Perhaps the guy who genuinely cares about you is 40 pounds overweight. Perhaps the guy with the great body spends three hours a day working out, no matter if you wanted to stay in and cuddle under the covers. Perhaps the guy who makes a lot of money works for 60 hours a week, buying you things but leaving you with no one to live your life with. That's life, everywhere but Hollywood, at least.

There's an old saying about obtaining something: whatever you want can be found quick, good, or cheap, pick any two. If you want it quick and good, it won't be cheap; if you want it good and cheap, it won't be quick; if you want it quick and cheap, it won't be good. That applies to relationships too. If you want to find your perfect man quickly, you're going to have to invest a lot of time, effort, and money to find him; if you want a good man without giving up much, it won't be quick; if you want a man quickly without giving up much, he won't be good.

I with you the best of luck in finding your perfect man, and I hope that he's everything you dream he can be. If you find him, let everyone know how you did it; I'd like to know how to find my Mrs. Right too. :-D

Depends what youre looking for in your 'good' man

like gay men are all great?! pfft.

Very well said!

I'm Not Looking For a Brad Pitt Or so on... I Don't Care About Weight.. Looks Aren't Everything.. I've Dated Very Good Looking Men And There Shallow As H*ll. ( I'm Not Saying All Are ) I'm Looking 4 Someone With A Good Heart, Personality, Great With Kids And I Don't Care What's In There Bank Account..

Listen, searching for some one takes time. U better take your time or u really really could be in a big mess. Just keep looking.

Maybe it is you.

yeah i might agree. those standards are pretty low, maybe you should lower them to incorporate those with explosive tempers and drinking problems as they might be the only ones who can put up with you.

There aren't any good men out here, all the good ones are already taken. Only the bad ones are left

because women want the 'bad boy' once they see a man who is nice or respectful or real, they hit friendship mode and never get out of it.

Or assume he is gay... same results.

They are all at home sitting in front of a computer looking at Dating Sites!

It's not so much about "good" men....it's about the "right" man for you...As said, you need to know what you're looking for in a man & go from there....you're not alone....us men face the same problem..............

Hmmmm, maybe you should place your standards marker right at the bottem, from the start. Then ,no matter WHAT happens, you,ll feel that you,re making progress! hahaha the sad truth is,,,People allow themselfs to be either used or abused in thier search.You must first take control of your life, and stop expecting your happiness to come from others.decide what makes YOU happy, and then search out people that honestly want to help that along.Kick all the others to the kirb.good luck.

There plenty of us out here. You have to reach out and communicate with us and quit telling lies because many of us lose interest. Yes, of course guys lie also and it come back to bite them also. But start with telling the truth the way it really is and you will attract more of us that want a straight relationship.

It does not matter about the lie for a 1 or 2 nite stand but it is everything for a long term relationship.

Well first, all the good men are so hard to find because only about 0.7% of the male population are actually good decent men. That's about 1,225,000,000 guys in the entire world. Now here are the factors that make it even harder to find them than it should be.

1. Not only most men, but also the majority of women are shallow and cold hearted.
They all want, and usually only think about, physical attributes. What do they look like? Where do they work? What kind of car do they drive? How much money do they make? Do they have their own house? These are the reason it's so hard to find a good man.
If more people cared about the only thing that truly matters, which is a persons soul/intellect/heart, this factor would not hold ground.
LADIES REMEMBER- over half of the good guys in this world are ugly, fat, nerdy, or shy. So start looking within.

2. Men are, pretty much on a day to day basis, bombarded with superficiality. Whether it's a father, brother, or friend, most guys are taught from age 1 to be sex crazed, egotistical, and prideful. If guys would be TRUE men, instead of lil' boys in grown bodies, and stop making lil' kids think the only way to "be a man" is to be as mean as possible and get as much ass as you can, we may one day be able to fix this factor.
REMEMBER MEN- a true man lives with Love, Honor, Chivalry, Humility, Respect, and Righteousness. Time to set the standard once more.

3. The moral and intellectual state of our world has been crippled by 6000 years of man governing themselves. Throughout history man has burdened man with the iniquities of their forefathers. Generation after generation, we have slowly weeded out the good men, for there have always been less righteous men than wicked ones. Our breed of morally, emotionally, and spiritually responsible men, has been nearly wiped out.


Secondly, no good man is gay. Gay men are only gay because they got molested by a man, or because all the women they ever tried to have anything with were bad, or because they were not raised to be masculine(or maybe too masculine and rebelled against it). And please don't message me calling me a biggot or something stupid like that, because I have had my gay moments, so I'm speaking from wisdom and experience. In any case, its a choice to do that which is against God and nature, and anything against God or nature, isn't "good" by any means.

Hope this helps. Message me if you want anymore "Insider Tips" on the male psyche.

Coz Most Good Men Are Either In A Relationship Or Married, We Get Stuck With The Leftovers. I Guess That Can Go For Women Too Most Nice Guys I Have Found On These Sites Are Addicted To The Site And Will Not Look Outside Of Their PC., So If You Want A Good Guy, You Have To Live On The Internet, All I Hear Them Say, It Is Safer, Guess They Do Not Know How To Date Anymore. Their Loss. There Is Life Out Here You Guys And Nice Women, If You Would Give Us A Chance.....

Hey, your wright. You just said what every guy already knows and just doesn't talk about it.

Well my dear you may want to think what you want. Money may not be everything but its important so start caring whats in your Bank Account.
I find that people put higher expectation on others than they do on themselves. We need to get real about life. We give up to easy want things handed to us and dont want to go through the effort of earning what we have. Kids want to leave the house and live just like mom and dad were. Not going to happen for most of us.
Everyone struggles some more than others but I think its a good thing. Helps keep us grounded and responsible.
Good men hey. Try good thinking first.

Don,t know but when you find a few send some my way

YES, IT TAKES TIME TO FIND A HONEST, DECENT, LOVING MAN. BUT I AM WILLING TO PUT THAT TIME INTO FINDING HIM. NOT EVERY ONE IS PERFECT IN FACT WE ARE ALL FAR,FAR FROM PERFECT. I AM NOT LOOKING FOR THE HARD BODY, BIG BANK ACCOUNT, FANCY CAR, OR THE HUGH HOUSE. BUT JUST A HONEST, DECENT, LOVING, ONE WOMAN MAN WHO WANTS A WOMAN WITH VALUES, MORTALS, HONEST, OLD FASHION ONE MAN WOMAN AND TO BUILD A LIFE TOGETHER WITH HER. I DO NOT KNOW IF IT WILL HAPPEN IN THE NEXT DAYS, WEEKS, MONTHS AND THAT IS OK WITH ME BUT I KNOW THAT I INTEAD TO GIVE IT THE BEST SHOT POSSIBLE AND HOPEFULLY I WILL FIND THAT TRUE LOVE.