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I just want to find one that won't LIE.. geez is that so hard?

We good men are out here, but the expectations of each sex are rarely, clearly defined. And, far too often there are hidden agenda's that don't come out until later, only to destroy everything that has been built.

Being a good man is often expensive in many other ways than simple money and for those of us that are not blessed with the obviously attractive features it's that much harder. Worse yet, if we are honest about our feelings, it seen as an afrontment rather than honesty.

So, you need to take a good look. We are out here, but most of us won't stand up and be recognized very quickly. We're tired of finishing last with the rest of the nice guys ... and that's just the way it seems to be.

some women can say the same thing about men. hard yes but impossible i am working to find that out or i would not have put a profile on here.

some women can say the same thing about men. hard yes but impossible i am working to find that out or i would not have put a profile on here.

there are also good women out there that have no hidden agenda and are very clear on what it is that they want,need,expect from the start.

Men aren't hard to find at all. It's a woman's high expectations that makes everything tough on themselves. There are probably five items of interest a woman attempts to find in a man:

1. good looks
2. wealth
3. intelligence
4. common sense
5. spiritual

Now which one of those does a woman value the most? On an animal level with a human twist, looks come first. Then we find that we can't live on love alone so wealth comes next. In time, the other three pre-requisites follow.

A good man is hard to find because you make it hard to find. In the end, leaping without looking first can hurt your heart: damaged goods. If any woman asks about a good man being hard to find, they are leaping into the abyss before looking at the signs or they're just plain jumping to conclusions. The younger women don't know but the older more experienced women do.

I can't believe the older women are just sitting back while watching the youngsters complain because they all know better.