what makes you WISE in a relationship? past experience or innate wisdom?

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integrity82 Houston Kazakhstan
Hi!
for instance a person is quite intelligent, nice and good hearted but really lacks experience in relationships. hence has difficulties in relationship with his or her date which appears to be a nice person too.
can the main root of the problems be immaturity caused by lack of experience ? or it takes innate wisdom and strong temper to always know how to act, what to say and how make feel the other person?
lrrh77 college station, Texas USA
its all about understanding and accepting. if you accept that relationships are a struggle and are willing to work on it together then you're ok. If not...best to move on.

Just speak honestly and from the heart. Best advice i can give. It hasn't always gotten me what i wanted but i have very few regrets.
HavinFuninTx North of Houston, Texas USA
...what makes you WISE in a relationship? past experience or innate wisdom?...

But isn't innate wisdom a product of experience? Maybe I should look up the word innate. Personally experience is what I feel is needed in everything we do in life. The more life experience we have, hopefully, the better we get at communicating and getting along with others.
greetings to Texas ladies bouquet

yeah, you said right things. just i often rush at conclusions, too fast to hurt or say some wrong things and i start thinking i that I DO NOT THINK at all. and i either lack experience in communication or i am blunt. i am afraid i just ruined a relationship with a person and do not if everything will be the same as it was
HavinFuninTx North of Houston, Texas USA
integrity82: greetings to Texas ladies

yeah, you said right things. just i often rush at conclusions, too fast to hurt or say some wrong things and i start thinking i that I DO NOT THINK at all. and i either lack experience in communication or i am blunt. i am afraid i just ruined a relationship with a person and do not if everything will be the same as it was


Thank you. Greetings to you, lovely and concerned Lady!

My personal beliefs are...if someone is that easy to run off, they are not worth keeping. I have a new saying I am using now that I read today...


"If you can’t handle someone at their worst,
You don’t deserve them at their best."

If you lost this person due to communication challenges, please, do not feel badly that they cannot accept your mistakes. Know that the people that are most loving and supportive will wonder first if they misunderstood and they will ask for clarification. Often they will dismiss many apparently negative things because they just have all that much personal growth of their own that they can look at others and say to themselves, I used to be like that.
comfort teddybear

Try to not beat yourself up. There are already plenty of people out there willing to do that FOR you. Instead, maybe being more forgiving and understanding of yourself would attract more forgiving people to you. Then just work on getting better at communicating. Make it a goal. Reward yourself when you do well and forgive yourself and learn from the mistakes you make.
My personal beliefs are...if someone is that easy to run off, they are not worth keeping. I have a new saying I am using now that I read today..."If you can’t handle someone at their worst,
You don’t deserve them at their best." quote]

thank you for your post. please, give me a piece of your wisdom wink angel kiss seriously, your post is really so helping. i don't know why but this never occured to me. i will remember this.
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