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why do i always fall for the ones that hurt me?
and never want the ones that can love me
is it always going to be like this, because if it is then why bother
i cant go on like this anymore i really cant!!

bad date den

I'm sorry to hear you got hurt

Well only you can answer that as nobody knows you better but i suspect you attracted to that particular type because it excites you. I could be wrong but i think maybe the kind guy who will treat you right is not the type you are attracted to because he is not exciting enough for you. You will notice that the type of guy a girl often dates is not the the type she ends up marrying....JMO

Interesting observation.

Its not just you believe me......

me too

Lets all hug together and make each other feel better....

you have to kiss many a frog to get a prince......just learn from it and move on.....sorry to hear you had a bad time, dont give up because of him

I use to to do that all the time, fall for the bad boy,I think we girls can see the good that no one else sees and are sometimes too optimistic, wanting to believe he will change for us.

Alot of the time, we see a different side to these 'bad boys' then they allow the rest of the world to see.

There is just a connection sometimes that pulls you into that particular type.Good girls will continue to go for the bad boys that pursue them and i believe the presue us knowing were easy targets
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Break the cycle
Bad boys may be fun for a while, but it usually never lasts. I got over it, I imagine you will too.

thats just it i dont go for the 'bad boys'.
im actually quite the other way,

Don't feel bad, I use to think I turned people gay, It just happened they were already gay and I just didn't know!!!!

Well then its just bad luck. Hopefully your luck with change soon

try to think back to the 'bad' dates and see if there is a pattern among the guys you are seeing, not neccessarily that they are bad boys. hope a good 'un comes along next time

thanks jampet i really hope so

In the meantime report to the great dictator for a spanking. we may give you a sore arse hun but we'll cheer you up

I Agree with nuala on this.. im still waiting but i think there is somone out there for all of us...

I am the same - the ones that want me I turn away,
And the ones that dont,, I want even more......
But thats the way it goes...until you meet the right one,,,
Then it is not so hard...well thats what I like to believe
anyways..........there really is someone for everyone.....
But sometimes the more yoy look the less you find.

Dont be so hard on yourself, jus have fun and no expectations,
That way u wont get hurt as easily, and if anything could comes
out of it then its a bonus!!

Hugs

xxx

You can only change your self. If you need to change the man your with means he is not the person for you. It's the main reason why relationships end, when we change ourselves we automatically attract the right person to us. But thats the hard part............waiting.

Sadly a lot of guys who are tools deep down over the years learn how to mask it and appear likeable people but can take a few dates even months until you realise it and see there true colours.

It happens with girls too and then you take it out on yourself and feel stupid but the only thing you done wrong was gave someone a chance and you shouldnt have that held against you.

And for the ones who teat you well thats just the percentages. the decent people are out number so chances are the nice ones you meet you may not be attracted to our it jusr doesnt work and theres a million saps to take there place.

It happens to me too...and I really don't go for bad boys, ever. But still I end up dumped...I sometimes feel that way too..but I am human and i know somewhere, some day, some great guy will like me and want to stick with me...I'm sure of that for you too.