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What is it about men on dating sites that makes a lot of
them think women are just on one for SEX??..TURN OFF!!
Block button instantly!!

Then you have the guys who are messaging you for MONTHS +
then just STOP...DISAPPEAR!!! No trace,no word,no EXPLAINATION!!

Why bother filling some ladies head with...im a nice,
genuine,honest guy crap if you are doing same to everyone??
What KICK or satisfaction do ye get from it??


Thats just SOME of what turns ME off some men on dating site..

check this out>>>Should it be mandatory????? in the forums....

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"Some" seem to think that if you are on a singles or dating website that you are desperate or easy and they stand a good chance. I have had men emailing me for the first time and the content of the email is "you sound like a nice person fancy meeting up heres my phone number." If I was to accept every offer I got for some "adult fun ", I'd have to give up my fulltime job.
I have also got a gripe with men asking me what my dress size is and if you refuse to give an answer they assume you have " body issues "!!!!!!
I have been asked for my bra size as well I would never dream of asking a man the size of any parts of his body - although men are never good when it comes to measurements anyway

Disclaimer : I am not lumping all men into this please not I have specified "SOME" men and all of the above statements are true.

I love the forums on this site, I can relate to so many of them,

I was messaging this one guy, Seemed very sincere and down to earth so I gave him my number, a week or so messaging, everything going really well (or so it seemed to me) and then nothing, he just stopped, no explanation, no nothing. This has made me so reluctant to give my number to anyone.

To get back to your question about turn offs, anything in the profile about sex, foul language, or men boasting about how fantastic they are puts me right off.

I also don't have time for profiles riddled with spelling errors, it translates to me that this guy isn't very bright, I mean your trying to come off in the best possible light so take the time and do it right.

I could go on for ever, I know I'm quite picky but the last thing i'll say is a mans whos profile lists 20+ interests puts me right off, It makes me think they don't need a relationship, they need a filofax.

[i][i]This is just my personal opinion so men don't take offence.

well there is girls on here like that, only they just send you links to webcam shows... them guys are on every free dating site cause they are to miserable to sign up and pay a fee for a real "casual encounter" website, so they chance their arm here, which makes it very hard for the genuine people on here to trust others..
as for the guys messaging then just stopping but the same could be said for some women too...

Well ladies ya dont have to worry about me asking ya for a casual encounter, if i saw a naked female now i wouldn't know what to do with them (though according to my ex that was always the case)

men that are arrogant, and the ones that jump down other people's throats at the slightest provocation- If a man is willing to be that aggresive to someone they don't know and over something trivial...imagine what their temper could be like in real life arguments.

i don't think people should try to portray themselves as perfect here, but don't throw your flaws in others faces too.

oh and txt spk 2!!! I h8 pple usng it- i don't even really know how!!

ah i'm sure it would come back to you

I agre, i h8t dat tx spk. i mean wot d feck r we ment 2 udrstan how ppl r u2l we kno wot dey r sayin

Well i once had a woman asking me for my measurements in text speak.

At least i think that's what she was asking me. Couldn't understand a word she was saying

Well presumably a lady might want sex at some point !!! After the intro, the chat, the jokes, the background and health checks, the dates, the gifts and the commitments!

It's taken for granted that being on a connecting singles site is linked to a desire for companionship, and through an inability to interact, a male blurts out his desire to *&^%. You can bet it wouldn't happen at a Ballroom Dance!

But lookin for it straight up is desperate. Still, we're wired that way, and searching for a mate when you're a raging ball of testosterone can be titillatingly frustrating!

It's a crude cry for attention and contact . Everyone really wants to find their match, but we're so far removed from the old traditions of arranged marriages and ballroom dancing. Approaching someone in a loud pub or emailing a virtual woman is a bit of a long shot.

The joy with mailing someone on a site like this is that you can be open in a way that may be very difficult face to face , but some people don't have those skills under any circumstance and they stick out like a sore thumb. That's why you have a block button!

If you're messaging someone for months, then maybe you've let the opportunity to go out on a date slip by. Perhaps for them a chance has arisen for a date in the real world and finding the words to explain aren't there. If you think it's worth chatting for months, why didn't you make real contact, in that time? Life is short. Bring a friend if you feel unsafe.

If a guy is nice, genuine and honest then he's entitled to tell anyone who'll listen. I don't get any kick in selling my best points to anyone but it has to be done.

Seems to me that this pretty much describes 99.9% of profiles.

I know what you mean People assume that about me just because im on a singles site

(Actually hold on a minute I am desperate , easy and well if you have a pulse you stand a better than good chance )



O no we are good at it thats how we know we need to lie about it



I have to say Im not a fan of profile’s with bad spelling (or text speak) lets face it how hard is it to cut and paste it into a word processor ??




My Dear the only explanation is that the taught of a real life encounter with a lady of your intelligence sophistication and beauty made him realise that he was in no way worthy to be in your presence so he bottled it ,

Why give it to any one ?? Ask for theirs keep the ball in your court !! And don’t worry you WILL find Mr Right it’ll just take a little time

In responce to:

If a guy is nice, genuine and honest then he's entitled to tell anyone who'll listen. [/quote]

I didn't explain myself very well there, This is the kind of thing I was talking about (Fictional Profile) well kind of fictional, I have changed it around so not to upset 'Mr Fantastic'

Mr Fantastic,
Outgoing, Intelligent, Daring, Funny and silly, Sarcastic, Realistic, Rich(Own house and car) Educated (University of bullshite)I have travelled the world(egypt,paris,wales,new york etc..etc.. in search of my princess and alas bla blah bla...
Like flying my helicopter at weekends and driving my porsch....etc

you get my drift, I didn't mean the genuine, nice, easy going profiles.

I really shouldn't be venting, I have had no one make rude or sexual remarks to me on this site at all, In fact I've had very little mail.

And 96% of the mens profiles are really quite good

just the men I choose are already taken or uninterested

I understand what you are saying but I think sometimes guys put themselves out there and it aint easy so when they are talking for months and nothing is happening they just go.
I think a lot of men wait for the woman to make the first move so as not to seem like a perv.
As for guys that think anybody is just on for sex well what can I say just dont bother yourself with them,by the way some of us are genuine,but I have to take a risk and say sex aint all bad,but I do understand what you mean.

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

crudity

men blowin their own trumpet

brief profiles

brief emails

wantin to know if u'v cleavage

wantin to know bra size

too quick with giving phone number

wantin to talk off site almost immediately

wanting to know what poosition u like

inane comments

no sense of humour

blah blah blah blah blah



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Right on sister you tell them

I didn't explain myself very well there, This is the kind of thing I was talking about (Fictional Profile) well kind of fictional, I have changed it around so not to upset 'Mr Fantastic'

Mr Fantastic,
Outgoing, Intelligent, Daring, Funny and silly, Sarcastic, Realistic, Rich(Own house and car) Educated (University of bullshite)I have travelled the world(egypt,paris,wales,new york etc..etc.. in search of my princess and alas bla blah bla...
Like flying my helicopter at weekends and driving my porsch....etc

you get my drift, I didn't mean the genuine, nice, easy going profiles.[/quote]

Mr Perfect? hehe
I have not read any man´s profile but I can imagine there might be some profiles like that (not many though I think) I do not want to be offensive either but I think many women profiles are also a lethany reproducing the same stuff of loving, caring, positive, outgoing blah blah blah, then I can imagine how men with little imagination can react to that kind of request. I think internet dating or flirting reproduces the same bullshitting basis of many real encounters, so I suppose the flimsy nature as to why two different human beings should be together plays a role: making people drift deep into their wishing and expectations instead of looking at people with an inquisitive eye of someone who is needy somehow but not extremely needy.
I know the subject of this thread is a different one, so I stop.