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Hi folks...new to this site!

Ok, just wondering what I should do next (if anything at all?)

I live away from where I grew up. June bank holiday weekend...bumped into a guy from home whom I haven't spoken to or seen in years. He is about 5 years older than me. To cut a long story short...I manage to get his number and ask him if he'd like for us to meet some time.

He says Yes and we meet! Just for a drink...we talked for over 3 hours. When it was time to go, he kissed me on the cheek, said it was nice to see me, tells me he's away the next weekend but could we meet up the following weekend, to which I say to him that I'm away but to give me a call and we might arrange something else.

On the way home, I dropped a message into his voicemail box saying I enjoyed his company and I would be happy for us to meet again, for him to give me call, but I would leave it up to him...Did I make my first mistake here?

Heard no more from him! After my weekend away, I sent him a friendly "hello" text...still nothing!....Did I make my 2nd mistake here?

Next weekend, I am going home for my grandmother's anniversary Mass and he will prob be there.

The thing is, I'm not sure if he's just too shy and needs a gentle prompt or just plain not interested! It was very difficult to read him the night we met.

So...do I send him another friendly text before the weekend, as a gentle prompt? (I wouldn't want to make a 3rd mistake and make a nuisance of myself) or Do nothing and wait to see if he'll acknowlege me after the Mass?... and if he doesn't..I'll definitely know he's not interested!

Any advice welcome.

fuck it just go 4 it

"Any advice welcome"


She who dare's wins , you are obviously interested in him so peruse it until you know whether he is or not ,

Ps
Men do not need gentle nudges we need big flashing neon signs

I agree Crotalus p....but how big a neon sign do I have to make!!!!

Welcome Gemgal.....if it was me I wouldnt contact him again....imo if a guy is interested in you he will contact you and very quickly after a first meeting if he is really interested....if he ignores you twice then he isnt interested....I know that sounds harsh but thats how Id think if it was myself in the same situation and it is my honest opinion.......

20 feet x 20 feet and nail it to his face

Thanks Crystal...thinking the same myself also. Just wanted another opinion on it.

Im sorry Gemgal I felt bad writing that...but it is my honest opinion...Im sure you'll find a nice man on here though.....

I wouldn't contact him again either, What the men here have failed to tell you is that they love the chase, Some kind of prehistoric thing I think.

I would say a friendly hello when you next see him and you will know yourself after that.

Guys admit it, you love the chase....

When the fridge is full, there is never anything in there that you want to eat !!!! I have seen and expeirenced this first hand.

I'd say, don't contact him again and see if he speaks to you when you are both at the mass. If he doesn't make a big effort in person then just put it behind you.

As an aside - I'm not interested, in the slightest, in the chase. I don't like games or faux dating protocols of any sort. Give me a forthright lady any day!

"As an aside - I'm not interested, in the slightest, in the chase. I don't like games or faux dating protocols of any sort. Give me a forthright lady any day!"

I find the above hard to believe, When a lady takes a strong interest in men tend to pull away, I have seen this first hand.

Its not games, its just instinct. One fella I was seeing was constantly texting and ringing, and i mean constantly and I couldn't be bothered, sure you would have to give up your job to fulfill his need for constant attention, it can really overbearing, so Personally, i think it swings both ways.

Whats that saying.... Mmm.... I can't think, its something like the something the something, the sweeter that sauce

Thanks for the opinions. I think you're right...I will leave it and see how he reacts on Sunday and just be my usual friendly self.

The longer the wait, the sweeter the sauce, i think

Yip girl I would agree with all the above. You have made enough attempts to let him know you're interested and he hasn't even met you half way!! And by ringing and txing him I think you have let him know so and you have already been out with him so he can't b shy. See how things go at the mass and if he makes any effort to talk to you or make contact with you. Let him make the next move.
I don't mean to sound harsh or cruel but maybe he just saw it as a friends catching up on old times kinda meet up not a date.
Let us know how it goes at the Mass and if he makes contact.

Oh my kind of man but I have to say youre a one off

I think you're right ladylumps...he probably just viewed it as catching up...I was more into him and wanted his suggestion to meet again to mean more!

Anyway, we'll let you know if there are any developments of which I doubt!

Thanks guys.

obviously you know more about this guy than any of us
if he is shy /not a lot of confidence in himself
then your first mistake was ..
saying you were not free
the weekend he wanted to meet you

he took this as a you lettin him down gently

as for voicemail
do you know he listen to them back
and texts can be takin in the complete opposite
to the way they are ment in situations like that.... jmo

i think your prayers will be answered
after your grandmothers mass

best of luck

I agree with that statement....could he be married d'ya think?

Methinks

He's definitely not married and never was! Lives with his 86 year old mother!

While he is quiet and shy in his demeanour, he is not anyway shy when talking to him...in fact he is a chatterbox.

As for the text messages and voicemails, I have no real proof that he got them other than I received a delivery report that they went through.

Anyway, que sera, sera!

I appreciate all your opinions and comments.