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hi i need some advice please help , my ex girlfriend wants to get back together this would not be a prob but before we broke up she told me that she had being with 5 other people over the course of 10 years now before you make a judgement i do love her and she did admit herself to m e so im thorn should i trust her again?

hi lads i know its a bit full on but i need some advice here

tell ya the truth man. i wouldn't fancy stirring some other bucks custard .
i know its really hard when you love some one but i think it could be wise to move on and find somebody who has more respect for you.
think it would always be in your mind that it was going to happen again and it would wreck your head.
sure you'll probably hit the back of the net at the meet in cork and forget about her anyway
best of luck

ha ha nice one thats what im kinda leaning towards myself but thats a mans view any women like to comment

Well the fact you have to ask the question says alot, I think you know the answer to it already. Having been in your position I know I could never have taken him back or trusted him. I know people make mistakes but Im sorry 5 people over 10 years thats 5 mistakes too many. I don't think the fact she admitted it herself means anything or says anything about her character. Move on and find someone who will love and respect you and only you. I'm sorry if I'm harsh but you did ask

wow thats impressive thanks for your comment as i said i was thinking that kinda way but im very taken by your strength

Just don't let her tarnish any future relationships you have not all women are like that ( hey my ex was a Cork guy ????? )

thanks well thats made up my mind thanks for the advice

Best of luck whatever you decide to do...
It's hard to get the "once a cheat always a cheat" thing out of your head once it's embedded.
It's your decision and at the end of the day you're the only one who can say I told you so

sorry but your ? didn't make clear- i assume you were together during these 10 years?? if so then.no she is not committed to the relationship and drop her like a hot potato!!

yeah i presume ye were together for the 10 years? if so then NO WAY NO WAY NO WAY NO WAY NO WAY
JMO

Trust is everything.

As its been said already, you seem to know the answer to that question but maybe you need to be told it from others.....I think in my hearts of heart if you were meant to be together forever, first you wouldnt have broken up and secondly if she really loved you she had no reason to roam. I feel that she now wants to play games with you by telling you she wants you back and by the way i have been with 5 others ......So you will feel honoured that its you she wants to be with....when really she doesnt like her own company but you do deserve to be treated better ....she had her chance and lost it so tell her to take a hike.... You have move on from her and are now living life to the fullest....

I don't think anybody can tell you whether or not to trust her, (unless they are one of the five) perhaps the question should be "why do you keep loving her and how do I stop?" Sorry to be blunt, but being there, (deliberate current adjective) doing that, still washing the blooming tee-shirt.

How long do you think this "go" is going to last?
When is number 6 going to appear?
Why am I listening to 7?
Best wishes whatever you decide
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ajr you haven't made it clear, if you were with her for those 10 years?

Were you together when she went out with these other 5 guys/women?

Its very hard - when you love someone, you want to believe they are good........but if she has cheated then never go bac - JMO

hi lads thanks for your comments and yes we were together fo those 10 years

That was tough ajr.

thanks minx as you know ive met somone else but i still love my ex i know im a fool just cant help it , i know i should not get back with her and if someone else had the same problem i would tell them get rid!!!!
as well

Yes, I know you met someone else and give her a chance.

Love doesn't die, it's an energy. You heart will always love your ex.

In my expereince.............................

One of life's paradoxes!!!