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come on gorgeous stop painting them all with the same spray can
some of the male genre aint too bad, some are down right disgusting, and some we dont even mention.

where do i find this creature u speak off....

It's a cultural thing where, from birth, men are conditioned to think that thin women are more attractive and sexy than big women.

Just as young is portrayed as more attractive than old.

Most women shown in magazines and films are thin and youthful looking. This always makes me laugh when I see Hollywood films where all the women are size 8's or less - which is rather detached from the reality of the average sized American woman.


And Kindatheart, maybe the men that have been contacting you are searching for some sort of mythical, perfect, ideal woman: 21 years old, 5' 8", 8 stone, , blonde, beautiful, no children, clever, charming, rich and just dieing to meet a man like them? Of course, the world is simply full of women like that - in their imagination.

You are soooo right!!!!!!

I like women built for comfort rather than speed same as I like most cars. I could never stand stick insects.

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I like women who are genuinely warm caring loving affectionate sincere faithful with a bit of cheekiness and a gsoh,if shes all them then i"m happy no matter what her looks are.
Its whats inside that matters not whats on the outside.I once went out with a girl who had been involved in a real bad car accident when she was young that had claimed her parents and left her face all disfigured and to be brought up by her grandparents but i was so touched by the person she was,such a lovely girl so warm genuine affectionate caring loving and very funny that i fell in love with her and enjoyed some real good times with her til her depresson took hold of her following the death of her grandmother that she never got over and because of peoples taunts and remarks abuut her facial disfigurement she ended up taking a fatal overdose.
My advice to people is to take people for the person they are not their looks.
She was lovely friendly kind warmhearted helpful,an all round really beautiful funny and loving person friend and girlfriend.

R.I.P. Vicky my beautiful friend.
Always fondly rememberd and never forgotten.

Just to play devils advocate, lets turn this around, why do women always say they want a “Tall dark handsome man”? Because its basic instinct for a woman to find a mate that will produce an “ideal” child. Men are no different.

We first have to admit that physical attraction is just as important as mental attraction, of course as time goes on the physical side lessens as the mental side grows, but initially if we see someone that we find physically attractive then we are moved to find out if the inside is just as good. But those who say they are only interested in whats inside are IMO, just lying to themselves, why else does virtually every profile say at some point “Lets see if we have that spark/Chemistry” it can only occur when the mixture of physical and mental attraction is correct.
If, as so many women say, they are interested only on what in inside the man was true, then CS would be full of successful relationships, instead, we find ourselves constantly battling just to get to have a meeting, because most (Not every) member look at the picture and make a decision there and then, that decision being based on what they see, not what the person has inside and can offer within a relationship.

All mens taste differs and the same goes for women, thats a given, or else the human race would have died out long ago.

You are probably talking to the wrong men i am big and beaitiful 57 and even young men want to meet me. All men have different needs and wants and we all look at people differently

I CAN,T AGREE WITH YOU MORE WELL SAID

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder look at the posts the big women think that all men want smaller women then thin women think all men want bigger women i would say the same as others on here everyone wants different things don't stereotype anyone we are all attracted to something different and if you haven't got looks then the personality shines through i had a modeling school and most of the models were so shallow with little or no personalities make some one laugh or smile and you're halfway there

There are big, Big, BIG and B I G.

It depends what people mean when they say "big."
A person who is, say, 30lbs overweight may consider themselves as big, and someone 200lbs overweight may too.

A potential partner may not just consider the aesthetical aspect, but what is also more important are the physical aspects. The scale range of obese to the upper end of super super morbidly obese is wide. There are health problems to consider. For instance obesity can, but obviously not always, can lead to uncontrolled diabetes, cancer, liver damage etc. A person may love someone but has to consider that their partner may not be healthy now or in the years to come. Super obesity makes practical things difficult too. For just a few examples restaurant chairs in some places may break under the strain, theatre seats don't allow much room for normal sized people let alone obese people, public transport seating may not be wide enough, leaving the person sitting next to the obese person sitting with one buttock on the seat and one buttock hanging in mid air.

Severe obesity is sometimes a psychological illness. Junk food and convenience food is addictive.

Couldn't agree more gussi!

Naturally slim is fine; it's when they make themselves look thin and become unsexy. I hate those standard celebrity figures. So synthetic. Maybe they do it to put the men off, being in the limelight all the time, or lose the concept of what sexy is I dunno.

Every taste is different but I personally prefer a bit of figure and slightly plump. Not fussed though.

I agree with u in some things u said in your reply .but eating disorders are not just with over weight people .The health problems you mentioned also happen to men and woman and evan children .when they are to thin and under weight.women and young girls today think the main thing in there life is to look good and this includes seeing food as some thing that makes them fat and unhealthy evan fruit and a healthy diet so they starve themselfs..its all this glossy magazine stuff that woman and young girls look at or famous woman that look more skeltons with skin coving there bones than healthy attractive woman that makes so many young girls and woman ill and there is so much pressure for woman to look a certain way in the world we live in to day ...i think eating a healthy diet and excercising and drinking enough water through the day is healthy but in todays world people just don,t make the time to sit down and eat a healthy dinner.so it ends up either u under eat or over eat the wrong foods that has so many people with eating disorders ..as a trained staff nurse i see alot of young girls with eating disorders may it be under weight or over weight which is very sad to see as some of them are as 8yrs old ..it is very sad to see that the world we live in has so many people ill because we are suppose to look a certain way ..we are all different in many ways as in personality ..sense of humour ..looks ..the way we view the world ..and other people....i think people should just be accepted for the person they are .And in a relationship i think people should look in side a person before they judge a book for its cover as the story inside could be completly different ..some of what you wrote was very true .but i think you left out that people that under eat have the same problems that people that over eat have .so its finding a healthy balance for your hight and bone struture..i think personaly a woman with a bit of meat on her bones is far more attravtive ..but everyone is intitieled to there own opinions ..this is just mine

A pressure to be a certain way is going to make you look unnattractive if acted on (tempted). Someone has forced knowingly or unknowingly their thoughts and ideas on them. It's not real and it shows.