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Jeez ragskuttle thats real baffling,why did he say he was in love with you and then back out of a relationship with you,first thing that comes to my mind is he must be married and freaked out at the realisation of declaring his love for you,in my mind if you love someone then the last thing you want to do is hurt them..ever..its time to take control of you and rise above what you may never find out from the guy,you can be happy with new guy if you really want to, you say he is nice then dont hurt him as you will if you continue to dwell over what you cant have..good luck to you lass..

Thanks for the reply. The guy was not married as the weekend was in his place. The ex had taken him for every penny and stripped the house of all the furniture too. I think it really killed him inside. The new guy is very nice and we get on really well and I am relaxed in his company but he does not light up my soul..........I guess I should finish it with him and continue my search....

Or a bloody good actor to fool you into thinking he felt for you the same way as you feel for him.

Definately you should as the opposite is going to happen & you are going to hurt him. I am also sorry for what happened with the first guy . I just feel that he was scared by the thought of falling in love. I have been single forever almost & i sometimes feel the same way. Seriously good luck whatever you decide to do

My thoughts too...

Some people on here are so good at acting, they deserve their own oscar

Totally agree with you Zell

At this rate we'll soon be holding the CS version of "The Oscars" I can't wait to see the list of nominees

We could even have a thread named "A to Z of CS Oscar nominees" ... Hmm, think I'd better go to

Just one last question to Ragskuttle.. What did you both sleep on if the house was stripped bare?? Hopefully, not the floorboards, must have been one heck of a rough ride if you did

He's not ready, nothing you can do .....

Thanks for the thoughts. I do like the idea of holding a CS Oscar ceremony!!!! hey ho onwards and upwards..........

That's the spirit ... as for the CS Oscars.. at least I know I'll be last on the list with my Z

Hi Jo

Ouch

Hi Helga

the broom would be rougher

Many reasons, have you asked him ? maybe the feelings were really there and it scared the shit out of him, maybe he feels the same as you.

Then maybe he was like others have said just running for an Oscar.

Nah, smoother... but with more splinters

What a bullshitter.

Either he's a liar, or his version of love is completely different to mine.

If I loved someone, that emotion would over-ride all other emotions, especially fear.

If I loved someone I'd want to see them again, no matter what.

The manipulative man. He was just telling you what he thought you wanted to hear and not what was truly in his heart. Either that or he's the most fickle person I've ever heard of.

Have you told him to start acting like a man and not a spineless jelly? The big baby.

And how self-centred can you get? He was scared that he would get badly hurt? Well how about him being scared that you would get badly hurt?


Anyway, at least it sounds like you had a wonderful time when you were with him.

There's plenty more fish in the sea. And sooner or later you'll find someone. The right someone.


Next! (as in bring on the next candidate for your affections)

Assuming you have had some time apart why not write a short love letter /poem (only 1) how you feel and post it now that would be lovely not that people do such things these days, but may get him thinking (if he is sincere). Good luck