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Its a fact of life in the sex stakes that women have the upper hand, but why? We are the same species, genetically not much different, both eat and drink, both have similar bodily functions except reproduction, So is it purely our thinking and prime evil urges our cave man in us that makes the differance?
So why cant we all go out and enjoy ourselves take the right precautions and live happily ever after, because we fall in love, get jealous and fight.
We are treated as an underdog and all we can do is bark.
Im confusing myself, I give up because Im emotionally weaker than a woman, man hasn't evolved at the same rate as woman were a couple of hundred thousand years behind, WHAT DO YOU THINK????

After a hard days work and two large glasses of wine I only think really ditszy thoughts so dont look to me for any advice cos I'm cool

What p*sses me off is why do the children have to go to the women when the men are just as good in some cases better in caring and looking after them????

What is so wrong with falling in love???? If all you do is fight and become jealous you are with the wrong person!

It is not the females fault if you are emotionally weaker than women, men have evolved at the same rate, some men choose not to use what they have been given....but women and men do think differently.

I dont treat chris as a underdog or as a lesser person, infact i have great respect for him and what he is doing.

If you want your children, fight for them.

If you think you are a better person to care for your child then you must stand up for what you want, if you dont fight then noone else will.

I don't think I've got the upper hand at all. Like men some women are emotionally strong and some are sensitive. Love is about finding a match, a soul-mate someone with whom you are equal. I would never get into a relationship where I was boss or he was - been there done that and I know how it feels to be beaten, no self-esteem or free-will. The one thing life taught me when I pieced back together our lives was my self-worth and that no person is either above or below me. I treat everyone with the same respect as long as they treat me with respect in return. And as for jealousy, I haven't got time for jealousy, if I love then I love without condition, there is no room for jealousy that's like having a third person in the relationship no wonder they break down. If you don't love and trust a person for who they are then you shouldn't be together in the first place.

This is what i wanted to say.....

It depends on the circumstances though,as with me,mine are tough.

Nothing is ever tough enough when children are involved....i know personaly that i would fight till the end for my children, they are the reason i get up in a morning.

It's just you got a raw deal, Englandz. So now you rebuild yourself - confidence and self-worth are the keys to getting what you want. If your confident in yourself and believe in yourself you can achieve everything you want - even what seems impossible at the moment. Then when you meet someone they or you will not be any the less than the other but both equals. You can't build a building with foundations lower on one side than the other - 'cos one day it'll fall down.

I totally agree Belle - and Englandz you know certain things and you must understand how tough it was - and we'd all be here for you if ever you felt low or needed support - at the moment there's a world of possibilities for you - you just need the determination for fight for it!

Awwww, I don't think women have the upper hand over men.
Men and women may be made up with different bits and bobs but we all have the same little thing beating away inside of us, and when that gets broken, we all hurt the same

Hi Lilly, how r u? - exactly everyone is equal and everyone can get hurt - even the toughest of the tough!

Hiya Hun, I'm fine thanks, and you?

Yes your right, even the toughest of us get hurt. I suppose some of us are good at putting on a front to hide the hurt

The thing is you never know what the other person frame of reference. You do not know what as gone on in some ones past. What might effect you badly won't effect me and vise versa because of past history. There is not a stronger sex only stronger people. Once you understand what has effected you in the past your will be able to move and get stronger.

Corrrr us women do talk sense sometimes! Letting go of the pain and dealing with the past then putting it behind you is such a crucial aspect of life before you get into another relationship. Otherwise all you do is take the pain and distrust with you which will influence how you behave in your new relationship!

Yeah, but only sometimes LOL

Yep, they key to moving on is finding inner peace

And a big tube of superglue to put your heart and mind back together!!

Fine thank Lily been doing lots of research on SADs.

I can't comment on SADs I love the winter, especially when its all cold outside and I'm all snuggled up inside.

Sorry, I was just coming to Barbados for a free holiday