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well you could always create a fake profile and catch him that way first lol,,he might be just there for the chat and ego boost without actually meeting other woman

hiya

im on this site now to make friends, but a while back i started dating someone from this site and to be onest it took me a while b4 i relised that i hadnt changed my profile to say to people i have met someone,

so there could be an inocent reason behind it,maybe its just not crossed his mind to change his profile but still comes on to chat to friends, so i would wait untill your 100% sure,other wise it could also make your friend fall out with you if you are rong,

but it is your decision to make,hope things work out ok

and welcome to the forums

Thanks Sue and Chris for your input. Did think of faking a profile but just think it's too underhanded and wouldn't want to explain that part to my friend. Just keep thinking that I would want to know, wether it be inocent or not. But will take your advice and hold on for a while.

I've been here a while but mainly just reading the threads but decided to brave it and put this thread up. So "Hi" all

welcome, and join in sometime with us all, im the quite one so youl be safe hehehe

hiya sue ,well my friend was winked at on another site by the guy i was seeing,,
hes on here as well as many other sites spouting on about how wonderful he is lol,,hes 2 years younger on one of the sites which is so foolish lol cos woman look on different sites too and are gonna know hes a liar,,

I would set up a fake profile, send him a message, see what his intentions are. What can you really wait about for? If it all comes out and you knew something about it, could all blow up in your face and if your proved wrong by this guy then no one need ever know.

maybe you should have a quiet word with the man in question before you do anything to hasty

i hate it when people make sence

Thanks everybody for all your input, it is interesting to see all the varied responces.

Well I bit the bullet and told her, as I thought I would want to know and then I could decide on what action to take, wether to set up a fake profile or to confront the person.

The outcome was that she knew he still had a profile on a dating site, because he told her he didn't know how to delete it, but it came as a bit of a shock to her when I told her that he had viewed the site yesterday. She said she would look into it and thanked me for telling her. So now it's upto her to decide what to do next. And purely on a selfish basis I am relieved that my part in all this has finished.

THANK YOU ALL AGAIN. Isn't this a great opportunity to be able to put the problems of life out there for a global answer.

i have a boyfriend who i have been with for 2 and a half years and i made a profile while we had a brief split a while back. i started talking to this crazy lot and couldn't stop!! i'm only on here for talking to people on the forums really (yes the ego boost is quite good hehe!!) but on my profile it says i am single cause otherwise people won't reply to your profile or email you if they are just browsing. I tell them straight away i have a bf and everyone onthe forums knows i do. If you want tell me his profile name and i can catch him out if you want cause obviously i'm not gonna go for him as i have a fella!

hope this long winded essay helps

omg i justed realised that i am a 'twat and didn't read the last post soz. personally i wouldn't have told her but that is just me.

think you could of used it for black mail if you still want me to try catch him out though i am willing!! i can see what he says then and relay it back to you!

youve only just relised your a twat

hahaha but ya a lovable twat

HONESTY IS THE BEST AND THINK HOW YOUR FRIEND WOULD FEEL IF THEY KNEW ID MENSHION IT IN PASSING AND SEE IF SHE KNEW THE DARK SIDE OFF IT IS SHE MAY NOT THANK YOU BUT HONESTY IS THE KEY TO LIFE XX GOOD LUCK

Just having a profile doesn't make him guilty of anything... what I would do is check him out for a while... be sure.. maybe even set up a profile for flirting and see if he responds.. he may have had that profile from ages ago and may only be checking in every now and then out of curiosity.. be sure before u act.. that would be my advise

Hi
If it were me i think i would just say hello to him.
If he deletes his profile then you know what his
intensions were, may be he was on the site before
he met your friend, and just has friends here.

there are some sites out there that don't delete your profile, even when you have requested it over and over again...I still get mail from a site where I've tried and tried to get away from it. It does tell you that the profile is deleted, but it is not... I finally gave up........

if your friend had seen the ad what would feel if you found out that she knew and didn't tell you

Its a hard one but I think the best way to arrive at the answer is maybe run it past her as someone elses problem. see it whether you would want to be told if it was you

I know for as much as it would hurt I would respect my friend for wanting to keep me safe hope you resolve it soon Good luck

Hi Sue my stepfather use to do this to my mum , in the day`s before computer`s at home , he would use a news paper ad . A friend of my mum`s told hir and it devastated hir , although he was found out and mum forgive him he done it time and time again he told hir it was for the sex only he had a high sex drive , mum ended the relationship when she couldn`t take any more . The friend that told mum said that she told hir because she was to frightend to face Robert , but she did say that if she`d known a man that could have faced him she would have done that insted if this helps you