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I have a question for the younger people here, in particular women under 30. Suppose you met a very attractive man, you started dating and found him fun to be with. He was intelligent, sensitive, kind, great sense of humour, etc. Clearly he had all the qualities you were seeking and after several dates you shared your first kiss. However, that first kiss didn't do it for you. My question is, would that be a deal breaker for you? I'm asking because I know someone who had been dating a girl for about a month and they had that kiss which was great for both of them. But she told him, "It's a good thing you are a good kisser because if you weren't, that would be it". He was quite surprised, but she said that she and her other female friends all feel the same, if you are not a good kisser, you're done. My thoughts are when you are in a new relationship it is a new experience for both of you. I think you have to become acquainted as to what feels good for you both or rather let each other know what you like. I can't imagine dropping a guy just because he is a bad kisser. But what do I know, I'm just a little old lady who lived through the 60's which was the age of free love, so anything went. Of course if someone is licking your whole face, sticking his tongue halfway down your throat, you need to give him some lessons! But I'd be interested in hearing from women of any age about how you feel about this? Would you drop someone who had everything you want just because that first kiss was not good? Doesn't practice make perfect?

Hi Rose

I'm 30, so I qualify to answer in the age group you require

Personally, no. I certainly wouldn't drop someone who doesn't give me the lip action I like/want, for whatever reasons.

I'm not that much of a kissy kissy person myself (Depending on the mood lol). But for some, male and female, a good old snog is just as important to them as the 'deed' itself.
So long as they tick all the right boxes in other ares, then a kiss for me isn't the be all and end all

I think kissing is really really important...but it would not make me dump someone if there were not fireworks from the first kiss. Sometimes the more u know someone and spend time with them , the better the kisses become.........same goes for sex - its generally not earth moving the very first time but the more u feel comfortable with someone and get to know likes and dislikes the better it is.

A kiss - yes its a matter of taste - some people like it slow and some like fast and furious with loads of tongue - each of us have our own way of kissing and when u kiss someone for the first time , you both have to "adapt" to eachother.

If some one was as u say "licking my whole face" sorry but then I probobly would end things!!! haha!! Thats a bit

Hi elegantlady,
That is a good question, i have some friends which are exactly like that... but i don't think they truly liked the person and were just using that as an excuse. If you find the right man, and he's a bad kisser... then practice makes perfect, although if someone was to tell me i had to practice my kissing skills i would be a bit put out at first but its all about adapting isnt it? If we can all teach each other a thing or 2 between the sheets then im sure we can do the same between lips!

So no, i would not dump mr right if he was a bad kisser, i would just send him to a corner to practice on his hand whilst i watched eastie peasties!