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Its all part of the cycle

Born......marry......have kids.........Die........Born............

Plus there is no doubt, a family unit is a wonderful experience, mum dad, 2.4 kids, cat dog gerbil and fish

Must make God feel warm all over

Not necessarily.

God's probably feeling really really really old. If our predecessors are "his" children then we today are his great great great great great great great great great.......grand children.

God probably never feels old because He never dies.
God is very happy every time one of his creation is
born. I am happy when I have a new addition to the
family.

I am with you on this one!

But you didn't answer my question.

Why did you choose to have that child?

Remember, Im not talking about keeping an unplanned pregnancy. Im talking about getting pregnant on purpose.

I don't have time to plan something. If you are married and you get pregnant, that's all part of God's blessing. People plan things when they have other things they consider they must do first. They may plan to have a child because they have difficulty conceiving, so it's done according to the ovulatory clock. What I am picking up from the question though, is as if someone didn't consult their partner and just went ahead and pull a few strings., which sounds devious to me.

IMO
These are my views as an agnostic.
Unless there is an unfortunate medical reason to prevent the child from being conceived by either or both partners and if God exists, he she or it, does not play any part in having a child.

It takes two to tango, male and female by natural selection and attraction (NORMALLY) -
and therefore - assuming no deliberate promscuity and irresponsible unprotected intercourse. Either the partners plan it or they do not, so it is a matter of self control and contraception which is the responsibility of either or both parties.

i think alot of people have kids,because everyone else does and dont think about it enough beforehand,think also many peoples reasons for having children are often selfish ones.think also people just assume they can have kids,at any time in their life and dont realise that for both men and women,fertility drops,after as young as 35

Medical advice from research also suggests the higher the age of conception also increases the chances of imperfections in the child.

I was 50 when my daughter was born, she is perfect in every way, but I would concede that I could be a tad bias.

And yes she was planned

Congrats
I think if parents of any age are healthy, all the checks OK that the child is OK too its up to individual couples as to how they live their lives IF they can support the child, regardless of age.

If and when any adult (over 18) expects as of right to claim state benefits to support their irresponsibility or promiscuity, that is another matter entirely, but unfortunately the government and various * authorities* officially, tacetly and if not, actively are known to encourage it if only to get a place to live.

We read about it here in my local newspaper and I am sure it goes on elsewehere.

All four of my children where planned.

As to why we decided to have them,,,

Is not an easy question to answer, I had never been particularly maternal, when I married we agreed that neither of us wanted children.

Five years into marriage I just started thinking about having a child and it became all consuming. I discussed this with my husband and we decided that we did want to start a family.

And I bet that is exactly what takes place with the majority of balanced and well adjusted couples

I think Anglo, you have just found your answer

I planned my first child, wanted the rest, and planned the last, even to the fact I changed my diet to have a different sex of child!!!! to have children was something I had wanted to do, I would not be without them now, my legacy to this world is that I have carried on the gene pool,

I feel sorry for the people that want children and for some reason or another cannot

then there are the one's who should never have children and do and then abuse them

never thought of it "with a god given right" my children I love them dearly and try to do the best by them, don't see them as token's, I am here to bring these children up as good people who see right or wrong and have the confidence to say so

Good post

Having children is the nearest we get to earthly immortality.

Creating a new person that is genetically half you and half the person you've fallen in love with.

Raising a person that will be deeply influenced by you. That will copy and immitate you. That will adopt a lot of your habits, views and personality traits.

There's also a special love between parents and children.

An unconditional love.

Simple to keep the blood line going..

Interesting.

Why was it "All consuming"? What exactly were the thoughts? Was it just a phsyical urge like a craving for a food or sweet but no explaination as to where it came from? You know what I mean?