This response has me wondering. If a guy only earns 1/2 the loaf, does that still make him the bread winner?
Luckly, I've been able to see examples of really good marriages and not so good ones. I think communicaton from the start is really important. My parents have been married a little over 50 years and they have a happy marriage. My dad always went to work, and my mom stayed home and cleaned house. My sister and brother-in-law also have a happy marriage. They have been married a little over 30 years, but both work outside the home. My brother-in-law does help out around the house. He is definitely not a wimp. If you were to see them together, you would think they were newlyweds. My friends relationship, on the otherhand, seems to be in trouble. I don't think they have clearly communicated their expectations. She works all day and her husband expects her to cook and clean and do all the domestic work when she gets home. He is also asking her for money and has her put some of the things he wants on her charge cards. To me, that isn't right. Also, I don't think either partner should tell each other that they are useless. Perhaps the guy doesn't have very much experience with domestic work. That is where I would show him, how ever many times it took. I've been doing this since I was 5, so I think this is an area I can say I'm an expert at. Again, it goes back to the mother and her training her sons as well. Everyone should know how to do laundry, dishes, cook etc. and women should know how to change a tire. P.S. this thread is not meant to bash men, but be thougth provoking.
rizlared: Men can't do right for doing wrong.
If we work all hours to provide a secure and financially sound environment then we are accused of ignoring the "little women".
If we share the household chores we are accused of being a wimp.
Just as a thought, how many women walk away from what was a loving caring marriage because they think the grass is greener else where (I am not talking about those that have cheating/violent spouses etc)
As opposed to how many men leave for the same reason.
Answer that one and maybe you will understand that no one is perfect, men have faults but so do women, if you stop complaining about your men maybe they will feel more respected and an asset to a family, and actually want to help around the home.According to the Citizens Advice Bureau, more women than men become bored and dissatisfied with their marriage, tell someone they are useless for long enough, they will end up feeling useless. And that works for both sexes!!!
But if you talk, open up lines of real communication instead of relying on men being able to read your every thought, maybe just maybe you too will be in for a long and happy relationship
JMO