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gussi Marburg, Hessen Germany
Angel_Diva: still cant figure out how u brought it on urself hunni....u have a view u said it and well to be honest i admire ur honesty about the matter....

so keep on saying what ur saying on the forums hunni....coz i for one am getting an education......



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gussi Marburg, Hessen Germany
Thanks gussi, always count on a mucker...

No probs mate always lend a helping hand

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phoenix paris, Ile-de-France France
gussi: JoJo kids are more resilient than one would think..
Very true and very impressionable..

gussi: I made a similar vow to myself once upon a moon and now regret it like so many others. They didnt thank me for it, instead i got the opposite to hear not only from them but my side of the family as well...

Your choice not mine....

gussi: F/buds maybe fine at the time, but even they leave a mess to be cleared up by someone and normally its the family that has to do it cos ole F/bud has just f*cked off to the next toy. Isnt it just nice to have that someone consistant and true to one to build up on... I think so....


No you miss the point..What you discribed is as Dude calls it a fuck witt. A fcuk bud is someone who you don't fcuk with. But you spend quality time with. I think it's the term..You can very easily have someone constant in your life and not a 24/7-365. Ask Rusty. All you have to do is set out the ground rules...And respect them.


gussi: One night stands dont mean move in together, and the "new one " cant replace the biological father but means its a case of the "new one" in your life has his work cut out with the kids as well. They will accept him when the kids see that you are happier and you are being treated right.


For the record...My monsters have never seen me with anyone except their mothers..(And thats how it stays until they are old and ugly enough to look after themselves.)
gussi Marburg, Hessen Germany
phoenix: Very true and very impressionable..


Your choice not mine....
No you miss the point..What you discribed is as Dude calls it a fuck witt . A fcuk bud is someone who you don't fcuk with. But you spend quality time with. I think it's the term..You can very easily have someone constant in your life and not a 24/7-365. Ask Rusty. All you have to do is set out the ground rules...And respect them.

For the record...My monsters have never seen me with anyone except their mothers..(And thats how it stays until they are old and ugly enough to look after themselves.)


and the shit will still fly, probably even more then before. Been there and had to shovel a lot of the darned smelly stuff as well.

gussi Marburg, Hessen Germany
"No you miss the point..What you discribed is as Dude calls it a fuck witt. A fcuk bud is someone who you don't fcuk with. But you spend quality time with. I think it's the term..You can very easily have someone constant in your life and not a 24/7-365. Ask Rusty. All you have to do is set out the ground rules...And respect them."

Pheonix a fcuk witt and a f/bud is the same. Difference being a fcuk witt is brainless and does it blatantly, whereas a f/bud is still brainless but uses discretion. But both the same thoughts "leg over" when the five finger handshake dont work. Neither have morals or principles or feelings for the mess left behind.







phoenix paris, Ile-de-France France
Dude1969:
mill and boon Eh ! Wooooooooo
as a man and I do mean a real man not a plastic put batteries in for the night type.



Dude1969: this type of men Call it a game, games have loser's, and in my eyes its usualy the women left to hold a baby
or restict there emotional dependancy on that person "I here dont hate the players hate the game"
like its a fun thing. now really who's it fun for ! even now its I'll do this till mr right comes along !
this is just my point of view !

And games always have to have winner
...The main reason why women are left holding the baby is due to the courts..And also absent fathers..There are lots of fathers who play a bit part in their kids lives through no real fault of their own..Also lots couples today because of work comittments/ society don't get to see their kids/partener as often as they want.


Dude1969:
Im domestic and patient. I came to the conclusion that being a fcuk witt was for the players
and someone got to clean up the mess.




Dude1969: as above !


You probably are domesticated...

Dude1969:
and I have the heart and Empathy not to fill that spot.


What spot?



Dude1969: as the kind of man I am and the friends Ive ran to the aid of , Ive seen it all and Its not somthing I want to
have happen to my female friends so I keep them out my bed !
and feel honoured when I got a flat full off 20 somthing females running around comfy in the fact that they are safe. them being in a half undressed state or not !


I'm looking for a volley ball team..Baileys is the Capt, jo's on board and SB is the official groper trainer..pass on their CVs..

Dude1969: of course I do get left for the fcuk buddy type losely labled as 'friends..

Then what you have is friends who who sleep with..not a fuck bud.



Dude1969: as I said if the woman gets preg or wants somthing more then just sex, he'll go and leave her real boyfriend If she has one to tidy the mess that aint a friend is it really !


And as I said ...set out the ground rules first....

Dude1969: but this is just me.. I hope I got my articulation right its aimed at type not against a singular entity


I know where you are coming from and every one is entitled to their opinion..hopes, dreams.....



phoenix paris, Ile-de-France France
gussi: "

Pheonix a fcuk witt and a f/bud is the same. Difference being a fcuk witt is brainless and does it blatantly, whereas a f/bud is still brainless but uses discretion. But both the same thoughts "leg over" when the five finger handshake dont work. Neither have morals or principles or feelings for the mess left behind.



The big problem here is simply the term...Like i said inter-european relationships or IER..same thing.

Why can't they (ground rules) have morales or principles..As for the leg over..That's one of the benifits of a relationship..Isn't it better to see someone 8/18 times a year (example) over a longer period than to cram it into 6 mths, then it goes pear shaped..The fact that two people have decided to take time out and spend it together and enjoy the time spent..Has to be good..




phoenix paris, Ile-de-France France
gussi: and the shit will still fly, probably even more then before. Been there and had to shovel a lot of the darned smelly stuff as well.


Should have bagged it for miro..to ward off the mad dog and woman..



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rizlared Pisa, Tuscany Italy
gussi: "No you miss the point..What you discribed is as Dude calls it a fuck witt. A fcuk bud is someone who you don't fcuk with. But you spend quality time with. I think it's the term..You can very easily have someone constant in your life and not a 24/7-365. Ask Rusty. All you have to do is set out the ground rules...And respect them."

Pheonix a fcuk witt and a f/bud is the same. Difference being a fcuk witt is brainless and does it blatantly, whereas a f/bud is still brainless but uses discretion. But both the same thoughts "leg over" when the five finger handshake dont work. Neither have morals or principles or feelings for the mess left behind.



Sorry, I disagree, agree with your definition of a fcuk wit, but when a buddy, they can be a genuine relationship based on a closeness rather than love, that serves to support both parties.

I have a good friend from over 30 years, she hold a very stressful and long hour job, she has no time to build a full relationship and does not want to share her house, or life with a full time lover, she has had a buddy for about 3 years now, both enjoy each others company and both get satisfaction from their relationship. No way can you describe either of them as brainless, immoral or irresponsible.



phoenix paris, Ile-de-France France
rizlared: Sorry, I disagree, agree with your definition of a fcuk wit, but when a buddy, they can be a genuine relationship based on a closeness rather than love, that serves to support both parties.

I have a good friend from over 30 years, she hold a very stressful and long hour job, she has no time to build a full relationship and does not want to share her house, or life with a full time lover, she has had a buddy for about 3 years now, both enjoy each others company and both get satisfaction from their relationship. No way can you describe either of them as brainless, immoral or irresponsible.



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Apostophe Boksburg, Johannesburg South Africa
KarlVonLinne: Having sex in an early stage is like to eat the sweets before the dinner but you can always have dreams like min.

About my woman to come....
(Maybe she likes to make hot, intense Love on a silent beach at sunset)

is something else.

Women of America today can't appreciate the words from a honest and sincere man.
It' beauty that counts first. If a girl meets a gorgeous guy she doesn't ask if its casual or not. She grabs the opportunity and F...s him of. Referring to (sex and the city).


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I don't know how to exit this flippen thing without showing myself.

This man sure makes me laugh like a lunatic!


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Zellarrone1 Hull, Humberside, England UK
Dude1969: mill and boon Eh ! Wooooooooo
as a man and I do mean a real man not a plastic put batteries in for the night type.
Im domestic and patient. I came to the conclusion that being a fcuk witt was for the players
and someone got to clean up the mess. and I have the heart and Empathy not to fill that spot
since being 15 I've only ever had 4-5 relationships lasting between 5 and 10 yrs so I must be doing somthing right, of course I do get left for the fcuk buddy type losely labled as 'friends'
and as always they prove there worth when the poor Moo gets left holding there heart in taters
cause he's found a new toy to play with. I dare to care about the mess and heartbrake that leaves.
Im a good man and hold the foundations for for a sturdy and truthful life thats me ..

Mr old romantic, mills and boon living a simple stress free exsitance. and at peace with my self

so mwah ! get a good man and have your chocies and eat them to
rollers pointing Sat here munching choco coated popcorn popcorn washed down with cocoa beer

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Dude1969 Rochdale, Lancs, Greater Manchester, England UK
phoenix: I'm looking for a volley ball team..Baileys is the Capt, jo's on board and SB is the official trainer..pass on their CVs

sorry the girls in the group decline ! as they feel insulted.

And as I said ...set out the ground rules first.


so what your saying is , if a boundry is set for a f,buddy relationship then thats the be all and end all of the deal, there can be no compromise??? If she falls in love and wants more out of it, thats her problem
as long as she's still perfoming the f'buddy relationship???
and what if she tries to stop the sex bit cause Mr right has come into her life would it still be worth going round, 10 to 1 after a couple of knockbacks it would be Goodbye, auf Wiedersehen, adios, Au revoir
or whatever !
phoenix: And games always have to have winner.

is it really just a game, why dose a male and female friendship have to have sex involved.
can it not be more than a bootycall on a cold night when she feels lonly. could you just go to the aid of a female friend and just comfert her like a close friend should while she's in need let her snuggle in and be held just because you care for her and value the friendship.


phoenix: And also absent fathers.

why would most of the fathers be absent is it because she got pregnant and he only wanted a f'buddy relationship.
and hey my daughter lives with her mum and we get on could this be because there is no sexual intent
to spoil a friendship. I bet the women on CS who deal with there childs dad's would love to tell you about childcourts and the hasstle they have to go through and Id also bet the majority would tell you they wanted friendship and he still wanted the sex.



Dude1969 Rochdale, Lancs, Greater Manchester, England UK
Zellarrone1: Sat here munching choco coated popcorn washed down with cocoa


Vgood enjoy the choc !
Im just up to the part where the tall dark tall man is about to throw the lost lonly woman over and passionatly kiss her... ps they do get married Ive read this one loads of times before I dont ever remember hearing fiddles or dancing to them tho !

LOL !



phoenix paris, Ile-de-France France
Dude1969: so what your saying is , if a boundry is set for a f,buddy relationship then thats the be all and end all of the deal, there can be no compromise??? If she falls in love and wants more out of it, thats her problem
as long as she's still perfoming the f'buddy relationship???
and what if she tries to stop the sex bit cause Mr right has come into her life would it still be worth going round, 10 to 1 after a couple of knockbacks it would be Goodbye, auf Wiedersehen, adios, Au revoir
or whatever !


What is have said is ....a fuck bud is someone who you spend quality time with and yes having breakfast together...(but before that comes in to play the ground rules have to be sorted)..basically trust. Because like i've also said if you don't then you are IMO either friends who you sleep with or fuck witts..And generally in latter cases the woman ends up prgnant...


Dude1969: is it really just a game, why dose a male and female friendship have to have sex involved.
I have several girlfriends..and i have no intention of sleeping with any off them. The feeling is mutual.


Dude1969: can it not be more than a bootycallon a cold night when she feels lonly. could you just go to the aid of a female friend and just comfert her like a close friend should while she's in need let her snuggle in and be held just because you care for her and value the friendship


Don't understand..Like some girl phones me up and starts crying down the phones because she had a row with her BF/husband..And I jump on my horse and go and comfort her and "snuggle in" ..(your words)..Where in bed, a hotel...Wouldn't entertain her...
If any off my friends need morale encouragement or a shoulder to cry on..they don't have to ask..And i don't have to ask them..I can count the numbers of my friends with one hand...

Dude1969: why would most of the fathers be absent is it because she got pregnant and he only wanted a f'buddy relationship.
and hey my daughter lives with her mum and we get on could this be because there is no sexual intent
to spoil a friendship. I bet the women on CS who deal with there childs dad's would love to tell you about childcourts and the hasstle they have to go through and Id also bet the majority would tell you they wanted friendship and he still wanted the sex


Sorry Dude women don't have that monopoly...5 times in front off a court, 11 social worker reports...police reports..I could write a book about it..I'm wearing the T-shirt..I spent a few years getting my head around french family law and i'm heading back next year for round six..Trust me I can't loose..I'm not going into deatails and people can draw their own conclusions. And if the women only wants friendship and the bloke keeps hassling her..I'd advice her to go to the police.
gussi Marburg, Hessen Germany
phoenix: Should have bagged it for miro..to ward off the mad dog and woman..


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she wasnt around then

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1066max Hastings, East Sussex, England UK
F**k Bud everytime,
its a whole lot more fundevil




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